The only way to avoid pissing people off is to do nothing important.” — Oliver Emberton.

There is an abundance of important work for you to do today. After reading this post take a second and write down what matters the most to you. Now that you’ve written out what matters the most, write down what each person or thing needs. Chances are high that some need nothing today but someone somewhere needs something and if you can think of no needs for those people or things that matter the most I encourage you to get out there and get more involved, broaden your network and worldview. Now that you have a list of needs, circle the ones you can solve today, square the ones that you could solve in the future and then get to work!

These lists are important and you will piss off a lot of people for different reasons but if your helping than you are doing good and pissing off people while doing good is a great thing. I may need to re name this post it should read first help than piss people off and then help more.

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People will try to stop important work, they will be upset when the status quo is shaken up but as long as you are a help and not a hurt you must keep going and if you are not helping I implore you for the sake of humanity to get started.

The world works when everyone works. Get working and help out, no matter how pissed everyone gets at you.




Complaining and critical thinking are often used interchangeably but, they should not. Complaints and critical thoughts may share some attributes but they are very different ideas and tools.

Complaining is simply stating a grievance, Critical thinking is an objective analysis and evaluation of a situation or issue. So, there seems to be a lot of similarities but there is one big difference and it is not semantics.  Anyone who has read my blog should know that I hate arguments over semantics. The difference between complaining and critical thinking is Analysis.

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Any good amazement involves solving a problem. There is the major difference between complaining and critical thinking. “Do not come to me with a problem and no solution.” The following words have been spoken by managers throughout time and the world. A critical thinker sees opportunities disguised as problems. A complainer only sees problems.

The world needs more critical thinkers and fewer complainers. Critical thinkers are awesome, complainers are not.

Be awesome today!!




Q E D 

Posted: August 4, 2017 in Uncategorized

That which was to be demonstrated.  The first time I read those words together I did some head scratching and thinking and some more head scratching and then realized QED or “That which was to be demonstrated” is just another way of saying, ” It is proven”.

I am not great at math but I love math and I will geek out in a second at an interesting math equation. QED is often found at the end of math equations that are proofs. A math proof is a mathematical equation or a Philosophical one that, can directly point at a communally accepted truth. Proofs are big deals because they represent the truth or reality. Some famous mathematical proofs are; Bertrands Postulate, Proof that Pi is irrational, Godels completeness, the mean value and Sylows thereom.


Physics can get a little cloudy and confusing, proofs make it easier and less abstract. Life can also get cloudy and confusing but reality can make it better. Knowing the truth is a lot like finding proofs and the truth can serve the same purpose. But proofs and learning the truth can be a lot of hard work. The hard work is worth it.

Times will get tough and without proof without QED you will suffer far more than you need to. Learn more proofs and truth today. Put in the hard work now you will need it later





Confused yet? If not read the title of this post again. Ok, did you read it? Are you confused now? I live my life in confusion, no not really but this title can be confusing.

Give me a few more minutes and I will explain my confusing title. I spend almost every Sunday morning attending an adult Sunday school in a Baptist Christian church. I do not mention this to brag, adult Sunday school works for me and is something I enjoy but it does not make me a better or worse person. The mention of the Sunday school class is only brought up to paint the scene for the premise that created the confusing post title.  Every Sunday school lesson revolves around a scripture from my religious text. The text of the Christian religion is the Bible. The piece of text we studied was Matthew 25:31-46.  The passage is a beautiful text that tells about the end of time and mentions to the people at the end of time that the way they treated the lord of the Christian faith is part of their inheritance. Obviously, the people at the end of time are confused because they never treated the lord of their faith one way or the other. The Lord of their faith was and is this, amorphous spirit that exists but doesn’t exist. The lord of the faith drops a bomb on them…

34 “Then the King will say to those on his right, ‘Come, you who are blessed by my Father; take your inheritance, the kingdom prepared for you since the creation of the world. 35 For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in, 36 I needed clothes and you clothed me, I was sick and you looked after me, I was in prison and you came to visit me.’

37 “Then the righteous will answer him, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you something to drink?38 When did we see you a stranger and invite you in, or needing clothes and clothe you? 39 When did we see you sick or in prison and go to visit you?’

40 “The King will reply, ‘Truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me.’

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The commentary in the class mentioned that the passage was a parable. We have a class that is in the style of the forum and the discussion is open. One member took advantage of the forum style and told us that, this was not a parable but a prophecy. Being tech savvy I quickly googled parables and prophecies here is a link to one thing I found. It seems that parables and prophecies are close to the same thing and serve the same purpose of most of the religious text. What is the purpose of the religious text? To make you a better human, of course. A good human is one respects all life, a great human is one who loves all life and a better human is one who sacrifices for all life.

For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in, 36 I needed clothes and you clothed me, I was sick and you looked after me, I was in prison and you came to visit me.’

I have never been really good with words or grammar but I have always had ideas that I needed to get out about things. People who argue over semantics like Tomatoes or tomato and Potatoe or potato always seemed to slow down ideas. I know that many of these people feel like they are “refining” the ideas, however, when they stop a lesson or life to mention or debate over semantics this is not refinement but more obstructionist. There was this amazing book I once owned titled “Don’t Sweat the small stuff and it’s all small stuff“.  Reading this book helped me gain perspective on life and I think made me recognize the folly of debating semantics.

I encourage you today, to “not let perfect be the enemy of good” surely I want you to seek perfection but even more importantly you should do good, damn the semantics and grammar




Have you seen the movie “Lilo and Stitch”? I have and I absolutely love this movie. There is a young lonely girl who is being raised by her older sister. Lilo, that is the young girl’s name, befriends an alien who was created by a mad scientist with the purpose to wreck havoc on the world. The alien is named Stitch. Stitch and Lilo find love and learn what Ohana means. Ohana means family but in Hawai Ohana is bigger than biology and love has to be at the center of the family and binds the family and strengthens it.

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I grew up with a mom a dad and my sisters. There was never a moment in my childhood when I did not feel the love in my home. Not everyone is as fortunate as I was.  My ex-wife and I have children and the kids live in two homes their childhoods are way different than mine but through the efforts of the family, I think that my children have always experienced and felt love. In the movie Lilo and Stitch, the alien has some great lines. One is;

“Ohana means family. Family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten”

― Lilo and stitch


and the other…

This is my family. I found it, all on my own. It’s little, and broken, but still good. Yeah, still good.

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I love these lines from this movie. Why?? Well because we are all just messed up and disasters and it shouldn’t matter if we are family then you can be broken and little and if you are a family you will not be left behind. Moms, dads, brothers, sisters, cousins, aunts and uncles will do anything for their family. It may be messy and take time but family helps the family. The family will fuss and fight but when they love each other they will no matter what, take care of each other.

What’s up with all the family talk? Hey, thanks for asking. See I live in an army town, Hinesville GA. In this town, there is a church the name of the Church is  House of Prayer Christian Church. The church is facing allegations from a lot of Hinesville citizens. The charges brought against the church have come from various sources and are troubling for me the most troubling charge and source comes from parents who are pleading with their children and the church. The parents feel that the church has been and continues to be a wedge in their family.  The local paper has covered this News story. 

As part of the coverage, the local paper filmed a town hall meeting that got heated. The meeting broke my heart when a father and mother were reaching out to their son and he chooses the church over family.


I am not sure what your religious affiliation is but I am sure of this, a religion that destroys a family is not a religion I can support. So no matter what anyone else says be good to your family.




Why it matters

Posted: June 15, 2017 in Uncategorized

Everything we do is registered as a memory. This is an odd concept and kind of hard to understand. You are reading this post and you may believe that you are reading it at the same time that you are seeing it but you’re not.  the light hits the screen and then you look at the letters and spaces and your brain makes this proper with chemical reactions. So now really doesn’t exist it cannot exist and everything we experience is a memory of the action.  Some people like me, finds this idea of everything being a memory super interesting and other people, I am told most people, are all like “so what” everything a memory why does it matter?

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Thanks for asking. The reason it matters is that we construct our memories and we build and rebuild them all the time and we build and rebuild them using emotions.  So let’s say you had a paramour that you were completely and utterly head over heels for.  It seems to happen to all of us. We meet someone special and love life. The grass is greener, the sun is brighter, we love the sound of the birds singing in the morning. Then it goes south, we develop something that is not loving and our memories from the time spent with that person get rebuilt in a different way a darker way.  The attitude in which we live our lives will shape our memories and our memories are our reality so, honestly; attitude is everything. That aphorism is completely true. We can approach life with a positive outlook and live a full and rich life or we can do it with something that is not loving and things may not be good.  It really is in your hands. Live is really what you make it. Let’s all do our best to make it awesome!




What is it?

Posted: June 14, 2017 in Uncategorized

As we grow up we meet people and learn and do the best we can to help each other live full lives. That is the goal, right? To live and help others live a full life. But what is that? A full life. I love this movie, “It’s a Wonderful Life” in the movie the protagonist struggles with depression, so much so that, he contemplates suicide. An angel appears and lets the protagonist know how much impact he has had on family and friends and why his life and his friend’s lives are more full. In the movie, our protagonist is a banker for a savings and loan type of bank. I believe that he owned the bank.  George Bailey, that’s our protagonist name, experienced a financial crash at his savings and loan bank. Savings and Loans banks cannot deposit their investments, because of odd state rules, because of this odd law George invests the money into the bank owned by his competitor.  Georges competitor takes this opportunity to crush the savings and loan bank. This moment is the one that plunges George into his suicidal depression.

Savings and Loan banks were first created in the United States during the early 20th century. The banks helped members of communities become property owners and build equity in their families and generate wealth but there were problems and in the 80s a huge crash. After and during the crash rules were made by state and federal governments.

The rules were weird and depending on who you speak to do or do not work. The rules are changing all the time but the goal of the rules should never change.

There should always be financial tools for members of the community to gain and save capital see this is the goal of the rules and anything that stops this goal should be prohibited.

During life, you will face many situations, situations that may not seem black and white in these situations we often must make up our own rules.

On the show NCIS the main protagonist was a man named Gibbs and Gibbs had his own rules.

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So we always create our own rules but we must remember that our rules must be good for everyone