Archive for May, 2011

Monday I did not post on my blog. Hey take it easy it was my day off. I was celebrating memorial day by eating bbq and doing nothing at all. Not a bad way to spend a Monday I say!

What is memorial day for exactly anyways?  In short a federal holiday in the United States to remember all fallen US soldiers. We celebrate in this country much like we celebrate other holidays with a day off and food (and there is totally nothing wrong with that). I like days off and I like food. It is nice to know and let our children know why we have the day off and are eating the food. The men and women who made the ultimate sacrifice for our freedoms should always be remembered and honored wether it be Memorial day or not. To loss a loved one is something I wish on no one any where and to lose a loved one in war just seems inhumane and barbaric let’s hope that by teaching our children the meaning of Memorial day that when they are faced with   choosing war or diplomacy, that the lessons concerning Memorial day will resonate and diplomacy as well as cool heads will be the order of the day.




“Magic” words???

Posted: May 31, 2011 in Uncategorized

The nine-year old muttered “yeah right, magic words” under his breath as he walked away from the disappointment he faced when his mother told him no about receiving a piece of candy. When we were young some of our parents taught us that the words please and thank you were magic words. This is, unfortunately, very untrue. Good manners are important, but there is nothing magical about them. As a matter of fact, words in and of themselves, are not magical.

More recently than most of our childhoods, there was a tragic event in which a young girls life was taken and a us senator was shot in the head. I can’t think of many events more tragic than the loss of life, and when that life is the life of a child, well that’s the most tragic event I can imagine and that is exactly what happened.  Christina-Taylor Green was 9 years old when she was shot and killed by a man who is best described as a monster. An arrest was made on the same day and the tv and newspaper pundits weighed in on the monster and his motives. What I found most disturbing was the request by the pundits, as well as a sitting president, to “tone down the rhetoric”.

I would like to remind the president, as well as the pundits, and the ceo of Fox News (and yes- all believed that the rhetoric needed to be toned down). That rhetoric is that – rhetoric, and has no real power. It is our actions when we hear words that have the power. Words are just that, words.  Now remember when I said that “good manners are important”? Well, why is it that good manners are important?   Good manners are important because when people care about you they allow your words to affect them, and when people are easily influenced and swayed they will allow your words to affect them, and good manners are good. Good manners (only when people allow them to) will pick up someone’s spirit and sometimes get you what you want (like candy).

So “magic words” don’t exist but the closest thing we have to them are please and thank you.  So thanks for reading and please never tone down the political rhetoric. It is the rhetoric that got the president elected, isn’t it?

Oh yeah one more- So… please read this blog again



PS for those of you “haters of the rethoric and free speech” who argue that you “can’t yell fire in a crowded movie theater, check out this link..

and how do we do that?

Posted: May 27, 2011 in Uncategorized

OK as promised today is the third installment of love by john3c. Lets see we know how important love is. We know what love is and know we just have to be like nike and “do it”. How do we love.

The answer is simple as well as complex, much like my favorite asian food sweet and sour. We love by doing no harm and helping others. There was a horrible news story about a day trader who killed his family and himself after loosing his fortune. This story violates the first rule of how to show love, 1. love should do no harm. We should never intentionally hurt someone to accomplish a good thing.

All news is not bad there was a news story about James Martin, explaining why he gave away his fortune. Please read the link. Basically Martin was compelled to help everyone he could cope with the growing population and the shrinking land resources. This problem hit home for Martin and he has given his money and time to help with this cause. This brings us to our second part of how to love 2. helping others. Now I can imagine what you may be thinking.. “What about me? If I don’t help myself no one will.”  Want to hear something strange? if you help others you will be helping yourself as well. I know it’s illogical and makes no sense, but I am telling you this is how this crazy love stuff works. You don’t believe me. First figure out what you want.. I know cars, girls and money. I mean what you really want got it? Take your time write it down read it to yourself out loud. This is what I want. Then save the paper and start making an effort to show love to everyone you meet and especially to a cause that touches your heart. Do this until this time next year and if you don’t get what you want (and I mean really want not the cars and women). Then quit showing love and start hating everyone. Trust me you will get what you want and need and the funny thing is you will want what you need. Yeah it’s nuts but hey that’s love.



What is it?

Posted: May 25, 2011 in Uncategorized

Alright sports fans yesterday I left the post with a teaser for today’s post (did you like that?). I thought it was a cool idea.  Ok so the teaser was what is love and how do we show it.

So because I am lazy and you don’t have time to read a protracted description of the single most powerful force in the known universe.  Here’s what I will do let’s break apart the teaser from yesterday. What is love that’s todays topic (and an early teaser for tomorrow). How do we love??

I remember watching the movie 2010 with Kyle, Johnathan, Connor and Hannah. In the movie during certain scenes there is this big black box. The film critics call it a monolith. Johnathan asked “what is it?”. I told him “its the box this dvd came in”. Of course that was simplistic and there was a much deeper reason for the monolith in the movie. Sometimes though the best place to start is with the most simple explanations. So love what is it? hmm… (here is a geek alert) I looked up love in the dictionary. Yes I know and you are right the definition wasn’t exactly what I was looking for. Here is the definition:



a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.

a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend.

sexual passion or desire.
–verb (used with object)


to have love or affection for: All her pupils love her.

to have a profoundly tender, passionate affection for (another person).

to have a strong liking for; take great pleasure in: to love music.
Yeah that was not exactly what I was looking for but it is a good starting point. The Love that helps, heals and does everything but hurts is more than a feeling it is an action.   I found a blog post on the internet with the answers from a group of kids 4 – 7 year olds asked “what is love”. After reading the response I am reminded of the statement “out of the mouths of babes”. The answers are cute and simple when you have  a moment visit this blog post. The post has gems like this one here: “When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn’t bend over and paint her toenails anymore. So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too. That’s love.”Rebecca- age 8

and then there is this one:

“Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it everyday.” Noelle – age 7

I could sit here and list all of these quotes but as I said early “protracted” and what not. So deep affection fondness, kindness and like I said love as a force for good requires actions. Actions that we engage in (other than the naughty ones) with someone we have a deep affection, fondness or kindness for are (or should be) actions that are respectful and involve a sacrifice of ourselves, ourself being our time, effort money. sacrificial love is the most powerful love in the universe. There is a website Visit that site on the site there are places to give and some really great blogs. The site describes in detail the task (which is usually completed by women) of retrieving water for one’s family. A mother will not allow her family to suffer and although the trek for water is long and dangerous she will make it and she will do this over and over as much as her family needs it. This action of getting water is definitely love. We can find ways to love everyday everywhere we are how you ask? Remember the teaser I mentioned earlier? You got it tomorrow we will talk about how

Love of a mother

peace (and love)



Yesterday, on my way to work, I heard over the radio about an f 5 tornado that ripped through Joplin MO. Currently the death toll is at 116 souls. That number makes this the largest tornado to hit the region in 60 years. Video of damage to the city from the tornado is posted on my account and here. The damage to the city, despite its massive size, is measurable, and honestly fixable, as terrible as it sounds.  Rebuilding the city’s infrastructure will stimulate the local economy and bring the community together and it seems to make the nation a little smaller. What cannot be quantified is the damage to the lives.  The survivors will all grieve in their own ways and on their own time limits. The emotional ripples (which honestly seem more like tsunami sized waves) from the disaster and tremendous loss will go on and cause more damage than anyone can imagine.

Life is a gift we are all given and I believe a right we all deserve.  Life was taken in the tornado that hit Joplin. A lot of lives were taken. How do you cope and get by after you lose someone close? What can you do to help someone who has lost a mother, father, brother, sister, cousin or close friend? Money? Time? A shoulder to cry on? The short answer is yes, all those things, and the long answer is all those things and more. My grandmother died when I was 13 years old (I am grateful for the time I had with her and I realize some people have never had that much time with their grandparents). When my grandma died, my mother took it hard. My mother and grandmother where close – they spent a lot of time together; bingo, yard sales, church – those two did all this together. Grandma had a sudden heart attack and then died in the hospital shortly after. Being 13 and watching how hard my mom took this really made an impression on me. My mother is a strong woman and I could count on one hand the amount of times I had seen her cry. What impressed me more than my moms grief was watching family and friends after my grandma’s death. My mom’s support structure came and gave her everything she needed (or at least it seemed that way to me). What was needed was love.

There are a lot of problems in life that will hit us, this will never stop, problems will come again and again. I know it’s a cliché and one of the greatest Beatle’s songs ever, but really, truly all we need is love. It’s clichéd for a reason. It’s my favorite and one of the most popular songs as well for a reason. Because it’s true.   Love… what is it and how is it done? Let’s talk about that tomorrow – today just know that it’s everything and all.


All we need is Reese s pieces I mean Love

peace and (hey) love


So last night I watched the move Tron legacy.   If you haven’t seen this movie yet definitely see it. The movie was great!! Jeff Bridges plays  the creator Sam Flynn as well as a program he created to make a perfect world Clu. To create a perfect world Clu must reprogram all the programs in the digital world that Sam Flynn and his son are trapped in.  Clu has plans using the reprogrammed programs to invade the world everyone else lives in and create another perfect world.

One line in the movie that really got me thinking last night was a line between Sam Flynn and Clu. Sam tells Clu that “The pursuit for perfection is an impossible task.” Many religious scholars will argue against this. They will let you know that “you will be in death transformed to perfection”.  See I get stuck on the “in death” part on that quote I understand that no one gets out of life alive but I think pursuing perfection something I will only have in death may not be such a good idea. So what is one to do he or she cannot have the perfect life.

Allow me to let everyone in on a news flash…. There is no perfect life. Yes it’s true. The right house, car, job, family country club membership and guess what? Still bumps hiccups (in keeping with the Tron theme) bugs. So since there is no perfect life what should we aspire for? I heard a man at a funeral say in his eulogy that the mother, wife and grandmother who had passed away made a positive loving impact on everyone she meet. This seems like something to aspire too. How we impact other people’s lives is going to make the largest difference for ourselves and everyone now and throughout time.  So maybe today we should all stop chasing after perfection and start working towards (in our imperfect ways) helping each other.



You know you loved this game!



What’s it worth?

Posted: May 21, 2011 in Uncategorized



When I was a 13 years old I would love to get comic books in the mail. My favorite comic book was The Amazing Spider – man.  Now a new 3 d movie is coming to theaters off my favorite comic book protagonist and I cannot wait to take my four heroes to see it! The comic book came every month like clock work in the mail. I would immediately read the book and then save it in a shoe box that I had in the closet. In middle school I meet some other kids who collected comic books and the one question the two questions they asked all the time when I showed them my books where: 1.. Why only Spider man? and 2. How much are they worth? My answers where Spider man is my favorite and I don’t know. So the answer to one of the questions has changed. I don’t collect comic books anymore so I guess my favorite hero is still spider man and now I may not know the value of all the comic books out there I do know where you can find the value at that is here: In case you are wondering the first issue of The Amazing Spider man (printed in 1963) is valued at in near mint condition 120,000 dollars

Value and worth is a funny thing. This morning a friend of mine sent me an e-mail that really hit home for me. The e-mail was an event hosted by Nick Vujicic. This guy during his speech made a comment that really hit home for me he said “it’s a lie to think you’re not good enough it’s a lie to think you’re not worth anything!”  Nick was born without arms and legs. Instead of giving up nick has found, by his own words “the purpose of his existence”. Nick has two bachelors degrees owns his own charitable business and works as an evangelist and motivational speaker.

It seems we are always trying to measure the value of something. There a guides for the value of comics, diamonds, at the gas pump there are different types of gasoline and their values make their prices higher and lower. It seems sometimes as people we try to measure the value of others. The problem with measuring the value of others is everyone has value no one is more or less valuable than anyone else. I truly feel this is a truth and when we start measuring the value of other people it makes us that much more likely to began to measure are own value and, depending on what is going on in our lives, we can at times feel worthless. So let’s always try to keep in mind that every person is valuable! We all count and no one is better or worse than anyone else.

I posted the video my friend sent to me of one of nicks speech’s so check it out! 



PS today is Alya’s 11th birthday so happy birthday Alya L