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Mystical Love

Posted: April 30, 2012 in Uncategorized
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Sunday almost came and went without anything odd or different. Almost….

It seems (and this is in no way a complaint) that Sunday at the small country baptist church I attened will never be mundane, this is a good thing. Yesterday’s service started as all others have, after receiving a bulletien from one of the dutiful ushers I made my way to the seat at the back of the church.  The seat usually occupied by me and my brood was taken. Small change, no big deal. We adjust accordingly and occupy the row behind another brood who are new to service. Adjustment made I glance at the buletein and notice that there is a different entry.  After the service part of the anouncement there are the words printed in the caligraphy font, specail anouncement. I felt as though I was at a movie theater, where they tell you to “stay tuned all the way till the end, you know after the credits”. We follow the orders of the bulletien and boy am I glad we did.

It’s a wedding. The reason we where politely pushed farther back was because of the wedding party. Bill and Glenda are great folks who have dated forever. Real salt of the earth people and it seems they wanted to tie the knot, yesterday and they did! Right after the service the preacher made the anouncement about the wedding. Glenda’s son made his way to the altar qwhite guitar in hand played music while his mom and fiance marched down the aisle. At the altar the couple took the plunge. The preacher spoke eloquently about love, so eloquenty that this is where I stole my post title from.

He mentioned, and I know I will get this wrong, that “marriage is a mirror of the mystical love Christ has for his church”. Now I am not sure where you fall in the religion department however the baptist religion (and well theology class here christianity is the religion baptist is the denomination, I just flashed back to middle school catechism classes ohh spooky ) anyways the Christian religion pictures the savior as a groom and the body of believers as a bride. The groom demonstrates through sacrifice and various miracles love which cannot be understood, however I believe as the preacher mentioned at the spontaneous, impromptu nuptial. That this love is mirrored and we catch a glimpse of it in weddings, the birth of our children a charitable gift to a cause. My wish for this week is to exercise more of this love so that we can catch more glimpses of it. I think the world needs it. What do you think?

 

 

 

peace

john3c

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go your own way

Posted: April 27, 2012 in Uncategorized
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If it’s a broken part, replace it
If it’s a broken arm, then brace it
If it’s a broken heart, then face it

And hold your own
Know your name
And go your own way
Hold your own
Know your name
And go your own way

And everything will be fine

full lyrics

Those are some really powerful words huh? They are some of the lyrics to one of Jason Mrazs songs on his cd titled “We sing, we dance  we steal things“, great cd definitely worth buying!  I am a Jason Mraz fan and so is John Meyer as a matter of fact John Meyer wrote in his blog after he himself won a grammy that Jason Mraz should have won.  That was indeed a glowing endorsement and it seems from the 2010 Grammy awards it did not fall on deaf ears.  Yep 2010 he won his grammy. Way to go Jason!  

He deserved the Grammy. With lyrics like the ones at the start of this post how could you not give someone a Grammy? (can you tell I am a fan?) Of course he won the Grammy for a different song though but the lack of recognition by the board should not negate from the simple fact that these lyrics are powerful and poignant.  I love the way that the lyrics point out that it is easy to get caught up in things that don’t matter and that if we focus on what really matters most of what doesn’t will work itself out. Come on how do you not get a Grammy for that?

Anyways I feel like this whole post has been a digression from the topic which is don’t worry about things that are not worth worrying about enjoy life it is a gift and you only get one.

 

peace

john3c

We enter the conference room not sure and I don’t know about the rest of my work colleagues  but I am unsure what to think. We were scheduled months ago for this meeting with the new HR rep, from the main office. I was a little anxious but my anxiety ebbed as she began to rattle on about harassment in the work place and clicked through slide after slide. This was a meeting I like to call the PSA type. PSA is short for public service announcement. The announcement was simple and unfortunately not short. It was basically respect your co workers.

During the monotonous speak and slide turning my mind begins to wonder (as it often does) and my focus turns from the plain power point presentation to the table where I see a bowl of jelly beans. One of my co workers (no he wasn’t demoted from colleague  to co-worker I am just playing with the two words, which one makes me sound like less of a jerk? colleague  or co-worker hmm…) has noticed the jar already, I know this because he is eating from the jar. I refrain from eating the sugary goodness and suffer through the rest of the slide show.

At the end of the show there is a terrible video put together by a law firm with b actors engaging in a scenario where harassment in the work place is identified and fixed amicably and peacefully. After the video we are asked to pick one jelly bean from the jar. The HR rep reads off a pop psych. evaluation for each of us based on the color of the jelly bean we pick. Despite this being totally inaccurate, everyone loves it because I am convinced everyone’s favorite subject is themselves (me included). She explains that it is fun to try to evaluate all the diverse personalities and our work place much like the bowl of jelly beans is a mixture of different personalities. I like her analogy. It really hits home. Perhaps because I love candy or maybe color I am not sure but ever since that meeting I cannot help but picture all my associates (yes I like that word best)  as jelly beans and the work place as this glass bowl. So you’re welcome for that mental image this morning

 

 

peace

john3c

I was in middle school when my moms step father died. He struggled with emphysema and when grandma had her stroke and died, it just really seems like he gave up. I always say he died more of a broken heart than the lung problems, he acquired from years of cigarette smoking. Very important lesson here is do not smoke kids.

I can remember some things about moms step dad, he was in the air force and flew planes and he liked to read. Every time I would see him he would ask what book I was reading, grandma was also an advocate for reading and would never miss a oppurtunity to buy and give me a book to read. They say that you will find yourself “turning into your parents as you get older I am not sure how true this is but I have noticed that I always ask my kids about what book they are reading and when I see books I think will interest them I do not hesitate to pick them up and bring them to them.

When I was younger I used to watch some fair amount of TV, much to the chagrin of my mother. On television I remember a set of commercials that had the theme “reading is fundamental” at the end of the statement I also remember a lot of PBS programs developed and based on reading.  I believe these programs and commercials are all part of a national outreach program for the youth to encourage reading

Reading is fundamental and important in the development of an individual. It is important we cultivate this in our youth and it is as easy as asking “what are you reading?’. I challenge all of us to make an impact in the next generation. I mean why not? It’s as simple as asking one question.

 

peace

john3c

Monday morning comes with a weekly status meeting at work. I go over progress on projects. I give timelines to the completion of the projects and the list that is called weekly accomplishments grows as the list called tasks shrinks.. Well not really, despite accomplishments list lengthening the tasks list seems to continue to grow and in a strange twist sometimes the task list is refilled with a revisit from the accomplishments list a new old project. Does this describe your work week? Does it feel like no matter how hard you try you will never empty your inbox? Does this describe your life? Does it feel like your week and weekend are dominated by tasks that will never get done and when the are done they are replaced by the same tasks? (and no I am not selling some organizing app for the i phone)

I once read a book (yes only one and then my head started hurting), titled “Don’t sweat the small stuff and it’s all small stuff.” by Richard Carlson.  I have mentioned this book before in my blog ( I mean that makes sense right? being the only book I’ve ever read), and I said it before and will say it again. Read that book really good book!   One interesting part in the book speaks about the fact that are inbox will never be empty and he was right.

Often we approach the inbox or our task list as a knight slaying a dragon maybe this is not the best technique maybe the inbox or task list would be better approached as opportunities for learning new things and meeting new people.

When I was a kid, like many children my parents would read me stories about adventurers setting out to do something great. These intrepid men and women were not concerned with the Zero inbox theory (interesting blog by the way), or the passive inbox  theory (another interesting blog too).  Now that I think about it all the adventurers in my childhood stories were not users of e-mail or the web (the stories were written well before the internet was invented by Al Gore).  These men and women in their,  bravery and valor,  did not concern themselves with Monday meetings and tasks or to do lists they simply displayed valor by helping damsels in distress and towns sacked by ogres (sorry Shrek some of your kin were rough).

I know it seems foolish to compare our childhood heroes and their situations to ours but how much more foolish is it to assume that we will solve all the world problems and empty our in boxes by the end of the day week month or year?

 

peace

john3c

Happy Monday!! I hope everyone had a great weekend, I did. Me and Kyle and Hannah ran a 5k run in beautiful Savannah GA. The three of us crossed the start and the finish line side by side. Hannah was the youngest of our running trio. She had a little trouble in the middle of the 5k but with some motivation she was able to put her head down and power through. I am so proud of her(you too Kyle)!
Running with these two got me to thinking about life. I realized that we all start here and end up there. Every body has, both a beginning and an end. The only place we really differ is the middle. Then (because it is always about me just kidding) I got to thinking what am I doing with this precious middle that I have?

I am not sure were you fall when it comes to the after life, but I do know this what we have right know is very important more so than the after life and that what we do right now will affect others right now and tomorrows. So are we a help or a hurt, to ourselves and others?

The 5k run (I like to call it a run because we weren’t competing) we did was the Susan Komen run. If you haven’t, take the time to read the story about Susan Komen and why her sister  started this run, it is really something else, and worth the read.  I held a plastic bag of water for Hannah and on the bag were the words “I am the cure”. I believe the words were meant to empower both women and men to take control of their health and help themselves as other and when they do this they are as much a part of the cure as a doctor, pharmacist, biologist or geneticist. We can make a difference in this middle by treating ourselves and others right there is no question about that. The question is are we?

 

 

peace

john3c

Ahh the choice debate. An age-old topic that I am quite certain will never come to an agreeable resolution. Some of the most interesting documents on choice come from the good dr. Willam Glasser MD. His book titled “Choice Theory” is for sure a must read for anyone working with a group of 3 or more people. In the book the doctor outlines how we create an ideal world that we wish to live in and our choices we make in the real world are all done to achieve this ideal world.

Now wether or not we believe doctor Glassers’ theory doesn’t negate the fact that we are faced with choices everyday, and it also doesn’t negate the only choices we truly have power over are our own(this is also another part of the “Choice Theory”, we can only control our own choices). We may believe through either employing or having ultimatums employed on us that we are not in control of our choices, but this belief is incorrect. ultimatums do not take away our power they merely make exercising that power a little more difficult. Ultatiums are tortuous devices which really have no place in any relationship that we consider to be special.

Maybe if we work more on our communications with people who are important to us we will not need to resort to employing these ultimatums. But if little Johnny doesn’t eat his vegetables he should definitely not get any ice cream for dessert.

peace

john3c