There are two in every crowd…

Posted: June 29, 2012 in Uncategorized
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When I was ten my dad worked hard at work and my mom worked hard at home. So our summer vacations were not spent at the day care they were spent on west 52nd street at the house with our mom functioning as ou care provider/warden/tv time regulator. I was ten and wanted to spend all summer watching tv and playing video games but mom had other plans. The little tv we did watch though was “The Flintstones”, great cartoon show about two families living in caveman time, the patriarchs of the families get into one misadventure after another. One of the funniest episodes was one were Fred and Barney (those are the names of the two patriarchs) wished for their magic alien friend, Kazoo, to make dummy doubles of them. The dummy Fred and Barney went to dinner with their wives and the  genuine Fred and Barney went to a bowling tournament. The plan was “flawless”, the Fred dummy only said yes and the Barney dummy only said no.

Of course the plan fell apart and everyone was laughing but I was in a meeting recently and realized that it seems every meeting always has a Fred dummy and a Barney dummy. One individual who agrees and promises everything and uses the word yes all the time and another who takes it upon themself to deny everything shake his or her head defiantly and uses the word no all the time. Most people want to help during a meeting by providing input, but let me tell you these two people do not help they are more of a hurt than anything else. In all of our interactions we should strive to do more than provide one word answers. To make an interaction, which is exactly what a meeting is, a worthwhile experience and something more than a waste of everyone’s time, it is important to avoid attitudes and words that are the “all or nothing” type. Compromise cannot be reached through using the words no or yes. Wait a minute! Yes is the definition of compromise right, well not really. The word yes is usually employed as a method of placating the party asking permission. Nothing is simple and clear if it was it wouldn’t require a meeting. So better than “no, no, no” or “yes, yes, yes” would be “maybe contingent on this or that” or “if this and that” any talk that involves thinking and acting and a plan.

Next time you are forced into a meeting and wish to provide some input think about what you are saying why you are saying it and don’t be one of those people.

That was a very funny episode of “The Flintstones” ha ha!!




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