What matters now will probably not later.

Posted: September 17, 2012 in Uncategorized
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I am a big fan of the book “Don’t sweat the small stuff and it’s all small stuff” by Richard Carlson. The author helps people who are coping with circumstances that seem insurmountable and mostly through making the people dealing take a step back and realigning their perspectives.

In the book the author points out that if something will not be that important on our death beds than it should not be that important now. To pragmatically apply this idea to our lives can be a very powerful tool especially for the person who worries and frets over small things.

When you do reach the end of your live I imagine you will not regret missing a work deadline or not answering an e mail but you will mor than likely want to have spent more time with family and friends. You may wish that, you had spent more time taking better care of your health.  There is a very interesting article in the Gurdian in which a nurse records the top five regrets of the dying. If you get the chance I would follow the link. The most interesting part is not the list that made it but what didn’t make it. People didn’t seem upset about not    accomplishing things, they seemed must regrettable about not living the life they wanted to live. Here is the list

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings. 

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

So chances are being a Monday and all that you will either read this post at work, before work or after work and if you are like the rest of us (and it being a Monday and all), you will probably get a little stressed out at work. When you start to feel the work stress seep in do like the artist who is sculpting from the big slab of marble when he starts to feel himself get stressed and lost in the details he puts down the hammer and chisel and steps back. He looks over the entire piece of work and realizes what he needs to focus on and then goes back at the masterpiece. So keep in mind very few have reached the end of life and wished they would have worried or stressed more about work.

peace

john3c

 

 

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