Comments, compliments and criticisms

Posted: April 17, 2013 in Uncategorized
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I was in the work break room yesterday congregating around the water cooler and someone made a comment or criticism about my suit being wrinkled. I guess I am nothing more than an adolescent male because I immediately fired back at the person with my a comment about unsolicited advice or comments.

The person I had fired back at was already retreating and my shot landed short of its target and did not have what I felt to be the intended consequence. What my shot back did do was make me feel worse about myself than his first criticism did. 

 

I have no doubt that the intentions of my co-worker were not completely altruistic in nature. I think maybe he was criticizing in an attempt to help himself feel more value or worth.  Sometimes we can find value by criticizing others but at what cost?

When tempted to offer up unsolicited advice or as I like to call it criticism. I remember the words of the great Dale Carnegie “Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain but it takes character and self control to be understanding and forgiving.

I have used Carnegies words to try to curb myself from criticizing others, I mean I do not want to be a fool, but today I realized I can use his entire statement when dealing with criticism directed at me.  Do I have the character and self control to be understanding and forgiving? I hope so and if I don’t have it yet it seems that as judgemental as the world is I will have more and more opportunities to work on developing this.

peace

john3c

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