Archive for June, 2013

I have a confession, I participate in binge television watching. Me and my girlfriend (should that be my girlfriend and I?), the two of us. Will turn on the tv watch Hulu + and view half or a full season of a television series in one or two settings. We were involved in one of these benders the other day with a series called “Once upon a Time”. It is a pretty good show classified as sci. fi (not sy fy because that is stupid), about a town from fairy tale land that was cursed by the evil queen and sent to Story brook In Maine United States America. All the men women and children of the town forgot their pasts except for certain key players.

The series plays out with new scenarios as well as flashbacks (a lot like “Lost” another series by the famed JJ Abrams).  I am not sure exactly why I like the series. It is well written and the acting is decent but nothing is spectacular. I think a began reason for my affinity to this diversion comes from discovering, with my girlfriend, all the details about the individuals in the series.

The audience gets a chance, through the narrative,  to uncover the truth about the bad guys and good guys. The bad guys are not all bad and the good guys are not always good.

I can’t help but think this goes on in life through connecting and listening to everyone we interact with. Learning more about everyone will make your life more full more interesting.

Today we should all take time to learn more, about someone other than our self. What’s going with your co – worker, boss or employee, at home, at work or with their family?




Hey goal setter

Posted: June 25, 2013 in Uncategorized
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Just yesterday, I checked my e – mail account and read an e-mail from the day zero project. The day zero project is a community of world wide challenge based goal setters. If you find yourself with some of that coveted and illusive spare time, do yourself a favor and cruise on over to and set up a goal list for yourself.

Setting goals writing them down helps make them real. This website and project helps do that for you. Go on, when you get the chance set the goals and then do something crazy, accomplish them.

I have my list, as short as it may be and I am actually crossing one item off of the list this weekend. Writing down goals can seem petty and small but I think maybe, what is truly petty and small in those cases could be the goals themselves and not writing them down. when you write down your goal and see it in black and white it can help you gain perspective on what is important.

So set the goal write it down and then do it. The year is half over, so let’s finish up the back nine by moving everything from our to do list to our to done it list.




Oh the power of the ellipsis.  What does it mean? The … it means there is more to follow.

have you ever watched the film “Back to the Future”? The movie is an American classic. The film is a must watch and if you haven’t seen it, stop reading this and go watch it. Buy the dvd and watch it. If you have seen the movie, then you will remember, doc Brown and Marty. For those who haven’t seen it and are still reading instead of watching,  Marty and Doc Brown are the two protagonist in the movie. Doc mentors Marty and tells him “If you  put your mind to it you can do anything.” Guess what? Doc was right.

The human being is an amazing animal. Man has walked on the moon, been to the bottom of the Marianas trench, basically eradicated polio.  All this has happened and yet 65 % of the world has gone un- explored. Seems impossible right?  Well 71 % of the world is covered in water and of that 71 % only 5 % has been explored by man.

Why does any of this matter? Because, sometimes in life, we can feel like Alexander.

“And when Alexander saw the breadth of his domain, he wept, for there were no more worlds to conquer.”

But, weep not there are so many worlds to conquer! The world the universe seems to have no end. You can dream as big as you want! You can do anything, and (instead of but) there is much work that needs to be done and there is no end of discovery for the brilliant, imaginative and intrepid.

Do not weep and “if you put your mind to it, you can do anything”.



Writing about water clocks (which by the way seem to be really cool)  date back as far as 4000 BC. So, humans have been measuring time for a really long, well, time. We break the day into hours then minutes and seconds. We set up appointments for important things like football and baseball games and practice. We also set up appointments for not so important things like the start and end of the work day.  Appointments are important, they help us connect. Connections and interaction is paramount for pretty much everything.  What else is life about if it is not about connecting?

Time helps us connect.  By using time we can life a more full and ordered life but when time uses us we risk living a life of regret. Everyone sleeps in late and misses appointments it is part of life, it is important that we do not beat ourselves up about it. A while back I posted about being late is always better than not being there at all and I still hold true to that.

Man created time, but not all men have mastered time. Time is a tool not some monster. There is a quote by an author about birthdays and life that really makes me think about time.

How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?
Satchel Paige

Something to consider. There is nothing wrong with time but it has to be in it’s place time is your servant not the other way around.


“There is a certain part of all of us that lives outside of time. Perhaps we become aware of our age only at exceptional moments and most of the time we are ageless.”
― Milan Kundera


Every year on your birthday, you get a chance to start new.
Sammy Hagar



Who are you?

Posted: June 20, 2013 in Uncategorized
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Ah, the journey of self discovery. I was 13 years old and it was late after mid – night and I knocked on my parents door and told my half asleep mom that I wasn’t sure who I was and my mom informed me that I was going through puberty. That this was part of growing up and to not worry about get to sleep and in time I would figure it out. I think she was right. Time has passed since then and I feel like I know who I am.  Of course sometimes who I am is shaken by others who try to change me or use me for what they want or need but I haven’t gotten lost yet (at least not to far lost).

Sometimes it can be easy to exist in the mold created by others for who we should be. We can set ourselves on cruise control and cruise through life. This is the path of least resistance, smooth sailing and the path were we trade inventiveness for efficiency.

Sometimes being who we are can be difficult dangerous and painful. But when you are true to you the danger is outweighed by the joy you will feel and the contributions you will make to the world.

“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.”
― Aristotle


“We are what we repeatedly do”

― Aristotle


Who are you and then what are you?  The good news is you have time if you are reading this you have time. Who are you and what are you? Most importantly will today be different from yesterday?

“A lifetime isn’t forever, so take the first chance, don’t wait for the second one! Because sometimes, there aren’t second chances! And if it turns out to be a mistake? So what! This is life! A whole bunch of mistakes! But if you never get a second chance at something you didn’t take a first chance at? That’s true failure.”
― C. JoyBell C.




One thing we can always count on from friends and family is there “help” through sage words of wisdom and guidance.  If you want it or not you will more than likely be treated to some advice. You don’t have to take the advice but unless you want more strained relationships with relatives you should at lest listen. Listening can be hard for a number of reasons. For starters the advice almost always includes a narrative explaining the situation you are in.  It is as if the “helper” is describing the water that you are drowning in.

I have caught myself a few times being this “helper” and then I thought back to something a wise person once told me. Are you being helpful? Is advice ever helpful? I think pointed solicited advice can be helpful sometimes, but unsolicited advice full of social maxims is usually never helpful. (I know it seems crazy and maybe ironic not sure about the whole irony issue, that someone who writes a blog is commented on the uselessness of unsolicited advice, but I would remind you that you found this blog and are reading so it’s not so much unsolicited as it is sought and I don’t think I am really advising as much as observing although there is some advisement going on hmm).

Being helpful is a lot like saying something about someone. My mom always said “if you are not going to say something nice say nothing at all”. If what you are doing is not helpful maybe the best route is to do nothing. Doing nothing will make us feel guilt then we will be compelled to help and if we help with real help, (not through advise or words) we will see real change.



It was Sunday morning and the word used by the reverend was  covet. The subject in our religious text coveted some treasure and stole the treasure he coveted because of the sin the tribe suffered and then the family and he suffered.

As parents we teach our children to do their best to want better for their own children to strive for the American dream but when is this striving or desire for this American dream more than an innocent ambition? When does wanting better turn to covet. Covet means, wrongful desire, to want and work towards something with no respect for anyone or anything else.

Whenever I think about the word covet I remember a scene from the Indiana Jones and the last Crusade movie.  The movie is great the hero finally finds the challis of Christ. The ground splits open and the challis as well as hero fall into the chasm. The hero holds onto a precipice with one hand  the other hand is touching the coveted challis. His father needs him to give both hands over so he can pull him out of the chasm.

That would be more than ambition for the cup of Christ. If he continues to reach for it and grasp at it he will destroy his own life and break his fathers heart. Sometimes when we chase our dreams we can lose sight of what our dreams we can lose sight of what our dreams should be. When we look  back and gain perspective we can sometimes realize that we could be living our dreams instead of chasing them

just a thought