Dale Carnegie wrote the book “How to win friends and influence people” one of the things he says to do is, to never tell anyone you disagree with them.Give peoples opinions an open forum and offer alternatives, but never let someone know you disagree with them.  I have to admit Dale was spot on with this one.

People will let you know that they want to “know the truth or how you feel” this is true but if you feel differently they will want to know this with compassion sympathy and empathy, and don’t they deserve this much? I mean at the end of the day what really matters is our connections with people.  If our opinions and principles make us a social pariah the opinions may warrant another look over.

People are connected to their ideas and belief system and to let them know you disagree with these ideas and beliefs, may be called head-strong, iron-willed, resolute but ultimately it is just rude and impolite. Now on the flip side it is important to avoid being condescending or overly patronizing.

We should always even when voicing a dissension be respectful and compassionate.  When mom said “if you have nothing nice to say, it is best to say nothing at all” was also spot on.

peace

john3c

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