How do I do it?

Posted: December 23, 2013 in Uncategorized

You want to be happy, so does everyone else. It is  a simple human thing. For some happiness is intrinsic to security and safety for others happiness means adventure and excitement, for others happiness is wealth and power. Well… not really. I just finished reading an article about scientific methods to improve human beings happiness.

Yeah that is correct. Scientific evidence for ten ways to be happy, and guess what?  Money, security and excitement were nowhere on the list. I don’t know about you but this really blows me away! I mean we wake up get in the car drive into work (a shorter commute did make the list, one thing to improve your happiness is to move closer to work, a long commute does major psychological damage effecting ones happiness.) and then work long hours for what? Money so that we can spend time with our family and friends.

Ahh there it is that was number 3 on the list. Spend more time with family and friends.   A study published in the Journal of Socio-Economics states than your relationships are worth more than $100,000: incredible right?

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Now if you have read the article you will know two things, 1. I cut and pasted that last comment straight from the article and two, that we already know most of the things that make us happy. We knew how to be happy pretty much ever since we were adults. I just think we have been sort of fooled, blinded by whatever you want to call it: consumerism, decadence, opulence. Whatever we call it we know that we cannot buy happiness but, doesn’t that new car look nice and we can buy it and get in it and drive around town and feel good for a while. But the feeling is fleeting. It is the holiday season. You and I have both bought some presents for people we love stuff that they will use and be happy and that is good gifts are good, but really what is more important the gift or the act of giving the gift?

I know they are borrowed cliches like; “it is better to give than receive” but it really is better to give than receive.  There is a wonderful book called “Flourish”, in the book the author, Dr. Seligman explains that

…we scientists have found that doing a kindness produces the single most reliable momentary increase in well-being of any exercise we have tested.


It seems after reading this article (you really should check it out) that, you can be happy and they ways to happiness are rather inexpensive but, they do take some work some effort some going out of our way for others. Some getting out of our comfort zones and finding the local theater or art gallery and then getting a hold of our family and friends and carting them their with us.

You really cannot buy happiness but we can earn it!






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