The secret is….

Posted: February 7, 2014 in Uncategorized

All I need to do is “get this raise”, “win the lottery”, “pass this course”, “finish my novel, screen play, play”, “get on the team” We all do it, don’t we. Not so much when we get older but it still happens. We look forward to the future and we see things that we think we need and we want and sometimes covet these things. Why does it happen? Is it ambition, greed? I am not sure what it is, but it seems to be part of the human condition. Seeking out a path to happiness, contentment. A visceral form of tranquility.  I know it seems that one cannot find visceral tranquility but that is what we want right? We want to fell alive and at peace. We just want to be happy and we are not always sure how to get there.

I am not sure what religion you practice, but I read an article about the Tibetan Buddhists, in of course, Tibet.  The article explained a  little about the isolation of Tibet and then went into some principles in the Buddhist faith that seem to be the secret to happiness. Now like I said I am not sure what religion you practice and I am also pretty sure that what ever religion you practice employs these same principles through one story or another as does Buddhism.

So the secret to happiness then is ……

Well to not try so hard relax and realize that you can only be happy by knowing who you are and helping others.

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Get intimate with your own mind.

Know who you are. Unplug from everyone and engage in healthy meditation and self talk. The more you get to know who you are the more you will like who you are, because you will work on parts you don’t like.


Practice compassion, at every moment.

This is a tough one. I am a Christian and at the center of the life of Christ was compassion. We are to love everyone. As a matter of fact the scripture used to teach Christians states that the most important commandment is to love God and others. That love should be for everyone to include the criminal. See it’s tough right?

Connect with others who support your journey.

Stay with positive people. Bad relationships can ruin a person. Stay with people who make you a better more compassionate person a introspective person and a happy person.  It seems like this should never happen. We should never stay with and spend time with people who do not support us or worse make us feel bad about ourselves, but it does. It can become a cycle too. I you are in this cycle I encourage you to find a compassionate way to break this cycle.

Embrace death — don’t fear it.

It will happen. Yep we are all going to die.

“Every man dies. Not every man really lives.” – William Wallace

Many religions have some sort of after life that they can look forward to after death. This no doubt helps tpo embrace death but it should not be the only reason to embrace death. A life well lived should result in a death that has been earned so to speak.

“Cowards die many times before their deaths;
The valiant never taste of death but once. ” Caesar

“Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life.

Almost everything–all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure–these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important.

Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.

No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don’t want to die to get there. And yet, death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it, and that is how it should be, because death is very likely the single best invention of life. It’s life’s change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new.”
― Steve Jobs

So there you go how to be happy

Know who you are love your neighbors, get with wonderful supportive people (there are some really great people out there too!), and understand that this ride will be over someday and you should enjoy all of it as much as you can the gains and looses. The laughs, the cries, the ups the downs it is all part of what it means to be humans and people are amazing. You are amazing







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