Posts Tagged ‘death’

It’s always there

Posted: December 15, 2016 in Uncategorized
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An interviewer on the radio was discussing moments that have been imprinted on Americans that are part of a certain generation. Those moments when you are asked and can remember “where you were when fill in the blank happened”. The interview came up with; 9/11 World Trade center and Pentagon attacks,  Challenger space launch disaster and OJ Simpson Bronco chase from the LA police department.

The interviewee agreed with the interviewer in that they were moments that are imprinted on society but they differed in that the Challenger wreck and the 9/11 attack were disasters.

I began to think about the difference between the Challenger disaster and the 9/11 attack. Space travel is dangerous and carries with it high risk. The 9/11 attack victims were men and women coming to work. Work at office buildings, work that is carries low risk and yet many of the workers suffered awful fates and some even death.

See, danger and risk is always there. We can do our best to avoid it and yet it will still be there. The fear of danger can often cause stress and in some cases it can cause a crippling sensation.  Under extreme stress bodies can and do shut down.

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It is imperative to living a happy healthy life style to learn how to recognize and deal with stress.  One coping mechanism that is not recommended is denial, because that danger is always there.

Don’t get me wrong denial does work, but often only for a short window. So a better strategy than denial is honesty and hope.

Whatever you are dealing with or not dealing with, be honest about it.

Examine what is happening and could happen. Perspective is very important.

List the pros and cons of the possible outcomes. Once again get some perspective

Allow yourself to run through all the emotions with the stress you have. Fear is usually only one part.

Finally speak with friends and families about your stresses. They can and will help and you maybe a help to them as well.

I encourage every one to not live in denial gain perspective and some hope this holiday season





Survived by….

Posted: November 26, 2012 in Uncategorized
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Before writing in this post I stopped and read my uncles obituary on the Star Beacon website.  The write-up mentions his love of his children grand children, travel and fishing and then it says “survived by” one son and three daughters. Those words survived by always, sense a kid, seemed strange to me, but then on the same site next to the obituary I see a touching letter written from my cousin to her dad (she is one of the survived by that the obituary speaks of) and I think I kind of understand what those words mean.

Uncle Keith was always smiling, and joking and laughing. You could tell he enjoyed the company of his family and I really believe he missed his wife, my  aunt Jackie. He will be missed of course, but  more than missed he will be survived by his children and grand children. The survivors will be in my thoughts and prayers and I ask they also be in yours.



Ok confession time. Are you ready? I stole this post’s title. Unfortunately it gets worse… I stole the title from a preacher. O that’s not the least of it. I didn’t even attend the service.

I was given a play-by-play of the service from a matriarch of the church who was no doubt trying to convey the preachers message in an attempt to spare me from eternal damnation, which is definitely a good thing. The message was one dealing with the fragile nature of men and women on the earth and the preacher mentioned to the church mom who was now mentioning to me that out lives are very short. He compared them to the blip on the headstone at most cemeteries throughout the country. We have our name two dates and a blip or line or dash between the dates and the sermon went on to explain how we are reduced to that little blip.

First apologies for being so deep on a Monday morning and second Really?? Is that all we are a little blip on a tombstone. I mean it really doesn’t matter I won’t be here but wow!! I would like to be a star or an asterisk with a mention under the date saying John lived and everyone he meet while alive was better for it because he was awesome.

I can count on my hand the people I know who have passed away (I think that is one of the benefits of youth), and I have been lucky enough to have been better for knowing them.  When I think of death I think of funerals and when I think of funerals I think of Dr. Seuss.

Crazy right? Let me explain,  Theodor Seuss Geisel or Dr. Seuss or perhaps you know him by his less know moniker Theo lesieg, who besides being a fan of pen names and palindromes was an insanely popular children’s author. His books have been and are still read by children all over the world.  So why in the world would I imagine Dr. Seuss when I think of funerals. While the reason is when Dr. Seuss died in 1991 the news showed a parade and celebration of life that his wife put on at his request and I thought “That’s something specail there she most have really dug him.” Now since I started dark I guess I should end dark… sorry in advance for this

but if we where to “check out now” would the parade be for us because we died or because we lived and everyone we meet along the way is better for it?



ps I am going to try not to get so deep anymore this week… I mean my head is all hurting and stuff