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Wants and needs

Posted: August 28, 2013 in Uncategorized
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In the morning before I leave the house for work I enjoy listening to music that gets streamed on my I Pad using the songza app. If you have an I pad and have not yet, do download the songza app from the app store check it out here http://www.songza.com. I absolutely love this app. I also love music but who doesn’t love music. Music is prayer, music is joy, love. “Music expresses that which cannot be put into words and that which cannot remain silent”
― Victor Hugo

So to paint the scene; I am in the bedroom listening to music and Ironing my shirt. The app plays two songs that I like and then one that I love. The song is “Fix Ya” by Cold Play.  For anyone who has not heard this song, it is about a person who is broken. The subject of the song can’t sleep or stop crying and the songs protagonist croons on about how he will fix her or him. So the name is “Fix Ya”.

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 When you try your best, but you don’t succeed
When you get what you want, but not what you need
When you feel so tired, but you can’t sleep
Stuck in reverse

And the tears come streaming down your face
When you lose something you can’t replace
When you love someone, but it goes to waste
Could it be worse?

Lights will guide you home
And ignite your bones
And I will try to fix you

And high up above or down below
When you’re too in love to let it go
But if you never try you’ll never know
Just what you’re worth

Lights will guide you home
And ignite your bones
And I will try to fix you

Tears stream down your face
When you lose something you cannot replace
Tears stream down your face
And I…

Tears stream down your face
I promise you I will learn from my mistakes
Tears stream down your face
And I…

Lights will guide you home
And ignite your bones
And I will try to fix you

…. See? This is a great song!! What really strikes me yesterday morning about this song is the second line.  “When you get what you want, but not what you need” Has this ever happened to you? Has it ever happened to me?

Wants and needs have been objects of interest to me since a child. My father was an expert on wants and needs. “You want “Air Jordans”, you need tennis shoes. I will make sure that you get what you need.” As a father I find myself explaining wants and needs to my own children and as an adult I see some peers who sometimes seem to get wants and needs mixed up.

When you get the chance, look up Luxury Tax, kind of interesting. It is a tax on goods not deemed essential and that is probably the difference in wants and needs right. A need is essential. A want may or may not be essential. I think about how as I child I wanted those Air Jordans I really did! However I had three sisters so I didn’t get what I wanted I did get what I needed and I had a very happy childhood. It can be tempting to feel as if we will achieve happiness when we get everything we want but, speaking from experience I can say this is not the case and as the crooner puts it in “Fix Ya” when you get what you want but not what you need you may find yourself in a really bad way.

Is the water murky enough for you yet? Maybe another singer can clear it up.

“It’s not having what you want
It’s wanting what you’ve got” –Sheryl Crow “Soak up the Sun”

The idea of wanting what you’ve got and getting wants but not needs makes me also think about the power of being grateful.  Maybe the secret to happiness lies less in outside forces like getting what we want or need and more in perspective? Life is a magnificent gift, we should all do our best to enjoy it and help others enjoy it.

I leave you with the wisdom of an expert on luxury

“Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.”
― Epicurus

peace

john3c

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So today the court will decide the fate of Bradley Manning, and while I try hard not to get political on my blog, it is hard not to say something.

Yesterday I watched an odd movie with my girlfriend. The movie was called Melancholia starring Kirsten Dunst and Keifer Sutherland. Before I turned the movie on it was pitched as “A beautiful movie about the end of the world by Lars Von Trier.” I don’t think you can describe it better. The movie was odd and really great.  In the movie one of the actors starts crying because it is the end of the world. The sister tells her not to cry for the earth because it is a wicked place and not worth saving. She lets her know she ins’t crying for the earth but for her son.

Now to my political rant. After seeing the shameful, trial results of Bradley Manning I went over to the http://www.wikileaks.org website and I have to agree with the actor who said the world was evil and it can be easy to believe it is not worth saving. Our only hope seems t be in our children.

Bradley Manning is 25 years old. A baby really a child still and he had the courage to speak up and know the justice system has found him guilty of 20 charges against him.

Like I said I am not political and I am not trying to be political, I don’t want to argue for against war. I simply want to state that the one hope we have is our children and today the justice system will decide whether or not to destroy that hope.

Is the world worth saving well it depends I guess. I hope that this verdict and sentence will not stop people from speaking up, when they see something.

peace

john3c

I know many people have strong opinions but before you comment I ask that you read and view the files Manning released on http://www.wikileaks.org

Any “Torchwood” fans out there? Maybe you are more of a “Doctor Who” fan. Any way I was just participating in some binge Torchwood watching with my girlfriend. (and yes I know she is awesome for watching that show with  me) We had just finished watching The day 4 episode of the Torchwood Children of Earth saga and let me tell you this one was a good one!

Jack our protagonist faces down the enemy, who is requesting that earth give them 10 percent of their children or he will kill them all, and quotes the “Wobblies” (what’s that not familiar with the Wobblies? You should so google these guys, very cool fellows.) anyway. The thought of Jack employing the Wobblies model to this episode and directing it at the enemy well it is quite profound.

The TV show made me do what great works of art should. It made me think. Often we are taught from a young age about sacrifice, and about winning. There is a lot of emphasis on strength courage valor, none of these virtues is bad but often what is lost and really shouldn’t be is compassion. Imagine if our generation changed the paradigm what if we embraced this philosophy? What if we made this our mantra? What if we decided today that An injury to one person is an injury to all?

Are you thinking yet? Are you considering how profound this thought is? Not if it is pragmatic or not but what if it was used and employed? What if we approached every interaction this way?

I am not sure what you are thinking but I feel like we may have had it all wrong. 

Just some light Tuesday musing about life 

peace

john3c

Good morning afternoon or evening. I hope everyone had a wonderful 4th of July yesterday, and celebrated the United States freedom from the British oppression in a grand way! I enjoyed the day off a holiday. This morning I woke up and while awaiting my departure for work read an article on the internet, ( isn’t that were everyone gets their news now?)  which outlined 10 great movies in which the heroes are doomed.  I read the article because I love movies and I also love lists. Doesn’t everyone love these things?

The article does a great job of showing how even after the heroes triumph at the end of the well-known movies there is so much more unanswered and harrowing circumstances to their existence that one can only assume that the heroes are doomed. When you get the chance you should click the link and read the article, it is really good. The good article got me to thinking about the movies, the heroes aftermath, my life and a very cheap paperback I read in middle school. The paperback was titled “after the fireworks”. Now I am not sure what religion you adhere to or practice but I was raised Baptist and despite the older generations staunch objections there are many in the Baptist faith who use charismatic approaches to religious events. The book spoke to what happened after the event was over. When the fireworks burned out, post honey moon. There is a lot of life which is not a chaotic crescendo pitting good and evil. A lot of life in which we as the protagonist can seem doomed, however I am convinced that 90 % of our reality is based on our perspective of that reality and if we can find some way to cultivate a positive perspective on our life we will be just fine.

I am not worried about our protagonists in any of the 10 movies mentioned because they understand that life is  a gift, a journey and they embrace it.

Embrace it

peace

john3c

 

I have a confession, I participate in binge television watching. Me and my girlfriend (should that be my girlfriend and I?), the two of us. Will turn on the tv watch Hulu + and view half or a full season of a television series in one or two settings. We were involved in one of these benders the other day with a series called “Once upon a Time”. It is a pretty good show classified as sci. fi (not sy fy because that is stupid), about a town from fairy tale land that was cursed by the evil queen and sent to Story brook In Maine United States America. All the men women and children of the town forgot their pasts except for certain key players.

The series plays out with new scenarios as well as flashbacks (a lot like “Lost” another series by the famed JJ Abrams).  I am not sure exactly why I like the series. It is well written and the acting is decent but nothing is spectacular. I think a began reason for my affinity to this diversion comes from discovering, with my girlfriend, all the details about the individuals in the series.

The audience gets a chance, through the narrative,  to uncover the truth about the bad guys and good guys. The bad guys are not all bad and the good guys are not always good.

I can’t help but think this goes on in life through connecting and listening to everyone we interact with. Learning more about everyone will make your life more full more interesting.

Today we should all take time to learn more, about someone other than our self. What’s going with your co – worker, boss or employee, at home, at work or with their family?

peace

john3c

Ok so if you said Warren Beatty you get the gold star. In the 1967 movie Bonnie and Clyde Warren makes this insightful quote “Ain’t life Grand”. If you have just read the first line and are very confused please see my post from Friday.

The first statement, if you haven’t read my post from Friday can be a little confusing, it could be compared to opening a 200 page book up to page eighty and starting to read. You would be confused and lost. Much of the plot develops quickly in novels, of course being the sharp tack and bright bulb that you are, you would quickly understand what is going on, developed your own back story and have finished the book by lunch time. I am of course assuming you are reading this book on one of your days off. Even though you would figure out the book starting at the beginning of our imaginary book would make it easier to understand and maybe a little more of an enjoyable read.

When I was in the Army one of my drill sergeants would always make mention of being on the same sheet of music. Have you ever seen sheet music? I have it can look quite complicated. I have not yet learned to read music. I like singing in church the older hymn but the only instrument I have learned to play so far has been the radio. I have however been exposed to sheet music. My sister played the violin, my daughter the clarinet and I have seen the paino player at churchs sheet music. Some sheet music will have words and two different sets of notes on them. I can totally imagine the confusion if you were to turn the page to early, while you were part of some orchestra.

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Sometimes at home and at work we can feel out of “it”. Usually after we get back from a vacation or have just recovered from being sick. There are routines in social structures that develop a mature over time and if we have not been there for some time we will not be accustomed to or even know some of the nuances of these routine. It is important to, relax, take a deep breath and remember, what Christopher Robin told Winnie the Pooh when something different happened to him.

“Promise me you’ll always remember: You’re braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think. Christopher Robin to Pooh”. 

peace

john3c

I can’t remember the name of the song but the lyrics are going on and on about a girl and being in love and then the crooner belts out “that’s my philosophy“. I think about the Elvis song “Rubberneckin”.  “Stop, look and listen baby that’s my philosophy”. You know the rest of the words. It is a fun song to listen to and sing (hello karaoke).

I think it is funny because philosophy can be very “deep” and it is a fun song making light of the serious nature of right and wrong and rules for life. I began to wonder a little to myself. What is my philosophy? I try to figure it out and I think my philosophy would be to do only good. Do I do that? I don’t know but I am going to try.

 

peace

john3c

Stop, look and listen baby that’s my philosophy
If your rubberneckin’ baby well that’s all right with me
Stop, look and listen baby that’s my philosophy
It’s called rubberneckin’ baby but that’s all right with me
Some people say I’m wasting time yeh, but they don’t really know
I like what I see I see what I like yeh, it gives me such a glow

First thing in the morning, last thing at night
I look, stare everywhere and see everything inside
Stop, look and listen baby that’s my philosophy
If your rubberneckin’ baby well that’s all right with me
Stop, look and listen baby that’s my philosophy
It’s called rubberneckin’ baby but that’s all right with me
Some people say I’m wasting time yeh, but they don’t really know
I like what I see I see what I like yeh, it gives me such a glow

Sittin’ on the back porch all by myself
Along came Mary Jane with somebody else
Well, stop, look and listen baby that’s my philosophy
It’s called rubberneckin’ baby but that’s all right with me

Some people say I’m wasting time yeh, but I don’t really care
I like what I see, I see what I like yeh, it gives me such a glow

Sittin’ on the back porch all by myself
Along came Mary Jane with somebody else
Well, stop, look and listen baby that’s my philosophy
It’s called rubberneckin’ baby but that’s all right with me
Stop, look and listen baby that’s my philosophy
Stop, look and listen baby that’s my philosophy
Stop, look and listen baby that’s my philosophy
Stop