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Wants and needs

Posted: August 28, 2013 in Uncategorized
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In the morning before I leave the house for work I enjoy listening to music that gets streamed on my I Pad using the songza app. If you have an I pad and have not yet, do download the songza app from the app store check it out here http://www.songza.com. I absolutely love this app. I also love music but who doesn’t love music. Music is prayer, music is joy, love. “Music expresses that which cannot be put into words and that which cannot remain silent”
― Victor Hugo

So to paint the scene; I am in the bedroom listening to music and Ironing my shirt. The app plays two songs that I like and then one that I love. The song is “Fix Ya” by Cold Play.  For anyone who has not heard this song, it is about a person who is broken. The subject of the song can’t sleep or stop crying and the songs protagonist croons on about how he will fix her or him. So the name is “Fix Ya”.

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 When you try your best, but you don’t succeed
When you get what you want, but not what you need
When you feel so tired, but you can’t sleep
Stuck in reverse

And the tears come streaming down your face
When you lose something you can’t replace
When you love someone, but it goes to waste
Could it be worse?

Lights will guide you home
And ignite your bones
And I will try to fix you

And high up above or down below
When you’re too in love to let it go
But if you never try you’ll never know
Just what you’re worth

Lights will guide you home
And ignite your bones
And I will try to fix you

Tears stream down your face
When you lose something you cannot replace
Tears stream down your face
And I…

Tears stream down your face
I promise you I will learn from my mistakes
Tears stream down your face
And I…

Lights will guide you home
And ignite your bones
And I will try to fix you

…. See? This is a great song!! What really strikes me yesterday morning about this song is the second line.  “When you get what you want, but not what you need” Has this ever happened to you? Has it ever happened to me?

Wants and needs have been objects of interest to me since a child. My father was an expert on wants and needs. “You want “Air Jordans”, you need tennis shoes. I will make sure that you get what you need.” As a father I find myself explaining wants and needs to my own children and as an adult I see some peers who sometimes seem to get wants and needs mixed up.

When you get the chance, look up Luxury Tax, kind of interesting. It is a tax on goods not deemed essential and that is probably the difference in wants and needs right. A need is essential. A want may or may not be essential. I think about how as I child I wanted those Air Jordans I really did! However I had three sisters so I didn’t get what I wanted I did get what I needed and I had a very happy childhood. It can be tempting to feel as if we will achieve happiness when we get everything we want but, speaking from experience I can say this is not the case and as the crooner puts it in “Fix Ya” when you get what you want but not what you need you may find yourself in a really bad way.

Is the water murky enough for you yet? Maybe another singer can clear it up.

“It’s not having what you want
It’s wanting what you’ve got” –Sheryl Crow “Soak up the Sun”

The idea of wanting what you’ve got and getting wants but not needs makes me also think about the power of being grateful.  Maybe the secret to happiness lies less in outside forces like getting what we want or need and more in perspective? Life is a magnificent gift, we should all do our best to enjoy it and help others enjoy it.

I leave you with the wisdom of an expert on luxury

“Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.”
― Epicurus

peace

john3c

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Any “Torchwood” fans out there? Maybe you are more of a “Doctor Who” fan. Any way I was just participating in some binge Torchwood watching with my girlfriend. (and yes I know she is awesome for watching that show with  me) We had just finished watching The day 4 episode of the Torchwood Children of Earth saga and let me tell you this one was a good one!

Jack our protagonist faces down the enemy, who is requesting that earth give them 10 percent of their children or he will kill them all, and quotes the “Wobblies” (what’s that not familiar with the Wobblies? You should so google these guys, very cool fellows.) anyway. The thought of Jack employing the Wobblies model to this episode and directing it at the enemy well it is quite profound.

The TV show made me do what great works of art should. It made me think. Often we are taught from a young age about sacrifice, and about winning. There is a lot of emphasis on strength courage valor, none of these virtues is bad but often what is lost and really shouldn’t be is compassion. Imagine if our generation changed the paradigm what if we embraced this philosophy? What if we made this our mantra? What if we decided today that An injury to one person is an injury to all?

Are you thinking yet? Are you considering how profound this thought is? Not if it is pragmatic or not but what if it was used and employed? What if we approached every interaction this way?

I am not sure what you are thinking but I feel like we may have had it all wrong. 

Just some light Tuesday musing about life 

peace

john3c

Good morning afternoon or evening. I hope everyone had a wonderful 4th of July yesterday, and celebrated the United States freedom from the British oppression in a grand way! I enjoyed the day off a holiday. This morning I woke up and while awaiting my departure for work read an article on the internet, ( isn’t that were everyone gets their news now?)  which outlined 10 great movies in which the heroes are doomed.  I read the article because I love movies and I also love lists. Doesn’t everyone love these things?

The article does a great job of showing how even after the heroes triumph at the end of the well-known movies there is so much more unanswered and harrowing circumstances to their existence that one can only assume that the heroes are doomed. When you get the chance you should click the link and read the article, it is really good. The good article got me to thinking about the movies, the heroes aftermath, my life and a very cheap paperback I read in middle school. The paperback was titled “after the fireworks”. Now I am not sure what religion you adhere to or practice but I was raised Baptist and despite the older generations staunch objections there are many in the Baptist faith who use charismatic approaches to religious events. The book spoke to what happened after the event was over. When the fireworks burned out, post honey moon. There is a lot of life which is not a chaotic crescendo pitting good and evil. A lot of life in which we as the protagonist can seem doomed, however I am convinced that 90 % of our reality is based on our perspective of that reality and if we can find some way to cultivate a positive perspective on our life we will be just fine.

I am not worried about our protagonists in any of the 10 movies mentioned because they understand that life is  a gift, a journey and they embrace it.

Embrace it

peace

john3c

 

I have a confession, I participate in binge television watching. Me and my girlfriend (should that be my girlfriend and I?), the two of us. Will turn on the tv watch Hulu + and view half or a full season of a television series in one or two settings. We were involved in one of these benders the other day with a series called “Once upon a Time”. It is a pretty good show classified as sci. fi (not sy fy because that is stupid), about a town from fairy tale land that was cursed by the evil queen and sent to Story brook In Maine United States America. All the men women and children of the town forgot their pasts except for certain key players.

The series plays out with new scenarios as well as flashbacks (a lot like “Lost” another series by the famed JJ Abrams).  I am not sure exactly why I like the series. It is well written and the acting is decent but nothing is spectacular. I think a began reason for my affinity to this diversion comes from discovering, with my girlfriend, all the details about the individuals in the series.

The audience gets a chance, through the narrative,  to uncover the truth about the bad guys and good guys. The bad guys are not all bad and the good guys are not always good.

I can’t help but think this goes on in life through connecting and listening to everyone we interact with. Learning more about everyone will make your life more full more interesting.

Today we should all take time to learn more, about someone other than our self. What’s going with your co – worker, boss or employee, at home, at work or with their family?

peace

john3c

Oh the power of the ellipsis.  What does it mean? The … it means there is more to follow.

have you ever watched the film “Back to the Future”? The movie is an American classic. The film is a must watch and if you haven’t seen it, stop reading this and go watch it. Buy the dvd and watch it. If you have seen the movie, then you will remember, doc Brown and Marty. For those who haven’t seen it and are still reading instead of watching,  Marty and Doc Brown are the two protagonist in the movie. Doc mentors Marty and tells him “If you  put your mind to it you can do anything.” Guess what? Doc was right.

The human being is an amazing animal. Man has walked on the moon, been to the bottom of the Marianas trench, basically eradicated polio.  All this has happened and yet 65 % of the world has gone un- explored. Seems impossible right?  Well 71 % of the world is covered in water and of that 71 % only 5 % has been explored by man.

Why does any of this matter? Because, sometimes in life, we can feel like Alexander.

“And when Alexander saw the breadth of his domain, he wept, for there were no more worlds to conquer.”

But, weep not there are so many worlds to conquer! The world the universe seems to have no end. You can dream as big as you want! You can do anything, and (instead of but) there is much work that needs to be done and there is no end of discovery for the brilliant, imaginative and intrepid.

Do not weep and “if you put your mind to it, you can do anything”.

peace

john3c

John Goddard passed away, he was 88 years old and known as the real life Indiana Jones.

John served in WWII, went on expeditions all over the globe broke both the speed and altitude records. He has sailed down the Nile river and was the first man to sail the length of the Congo river.

John loved people and was always interested in their culture and lands. When he was 15 years old he made a list of 127 things he wanted to do and John did most of them.

John said that “writing down a goal was important. Most people say something and that doesn’;t mean anything.”

You may or may not be 15 today but that doesn’t mean you can’t sit down and write out a list. I know I am!

Make the goals things you always wanted to do no matter how crazy. Do not sell yourself short (man has walked on the moon) then (and this is the important part) start checking things off the list. Enlist the help of friends and families, your inclusion of them, may help them check off their lists.

RIP John G and thanks for this great advice.

peace

john3c

imagesDid you read this post title? If you did, did it have the same effect on you as it did me? I know, I know you cannot be expected to answer this question if you do not know the effect this comment had on me. I heard this comment from a reporter who was immersed in a story. He mentioned that being immersed and living among people who “in habitat the headlines” was a truly rewarding experience.  So I thought about the words on my ride into work, and for the better part of the morning.

I like to listen, read and watch the news. I do this because I grew up watching my father do this. I never understood why my father did this. I mean the news has never been entertaining and is often uninteresting, it wasn’t until I heard the reporters quote that I realized, part of the reason I read, listen and watch the news is because the news is or should be our stories.

The news let’s us know what we have done and what we are doing. I use the word us as collective man.  We landed on the moon, we launched a telescope into outer space. I use the word we because even though I was not involved in those projects watching the news and monitoring it, kinda made me feel connected. So connected is not the same as in habituating the headlines is it?

What have I done this week? Well it is Monday so not much. But what will I do is it headline worthy? I hope so. I may be connected but not in habited to headlines now but check back with me at the week’s end

peace

john3c