Posts Tagged ‘fear’

On March 28th 1979 a stuck valve in reactor 2 of the 3 mile island nuclear generator station in Dauphin county PA caused a partial nuclear meltdown.3mi

Twenty-eight hours after the incident began there was a voluntary evacuation of the area. No significant damage to residents health was reported but the reactor was damaged too badly to save. The 3 mile island plant is still open and running but they are having trouble selling the power they generate on the market. Why is that? Nuclear energy is clean cheap and efficient, people should be breaking down the doors to buy this stuff.

Fear can take you places you would never go. Fear is sometimes needed and can help preserve your life, but without an education you may not preserve your life for a very long time and you could go from bad to worse. ff


You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’ Eleanor Roosevelt

There is nothing wrong with fear but, keep in mind that fear is an facet of who you are and you are a complicated and awesome being my friend. Let’s work hard today to not be guided by one facet and be a well-oiled machine.






It’s always there

Posted: December 15, 2016 in Uncategorized
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An interviewer on the radio was discussing moments that have been imprinted on Americans that are part of a certain generation. Those moments when you are asked and can remember “where you were when fill in the blank happened”. The interview came up with; 9/11 World Trade center and Pentagon attacks,  Challenger space launch disaster and OJ Simpson Bronco chase from the LA police department.

The interviewee agreed with the interviewer in that they were moments that are imprinted on society but they differed in that the Challenger wreck and the 9/11 attack were disasters.

I began to think about the difference between the Challenger disaster and the 9/11 attack. Space travel is dangerous and carries with it high risk. The 9/11 attack victims were men and women coming to work. Work at office buildings, work that is carries low risk and yet many of the workers suffered awful fates and some even death.

See, danger and risk is always there. We can do our best to avoid it and yet it will still be there. The fear of danger can often cause stress and in some cases it can cause a crippling sensation.  Under extreme stress bodies can and do shut down.

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It is imperative to living a happy healthy life style to learn how to recognize and deal with stress.  One coping mechanism that is not recommended is denial, because that danger is always there.

Don’t get me wrong denial does work, but often only for a short window. So a better strategy than denial is honesty and hope.

Whatever you are dealing with or not dealing with, be honest about it.

Examine what is happening and could happen. Perspective is very important.

List the pros and cons of the possible outcomes. Once again get some perspective

Allow yourself to run through all the emotions with the stress you have. Fear is usually only one part.

Finally speak with friends and families about your stresses. They can and will help and you maybe a help to them as well.

I encourage every one to not live in denial gain perspective and some hope this holiday season




I am sitting in the airport I am half way through a 2 hour layover on my way to a work conference. I feel happy, because the airport offers free wi fi, and despite the super early flight, I will be able to write up my post and finish reading a book I was given specifically for this conference.

The book is “Emotional Intelligence 2.0” and so far it has been pretty good. The book points out the importance of emotions and gives tips on how to use our emotions to make for full and rich professional and personal lives. Admittedly I haven’t started reading this book until just this morning but it is really a quick read, I am already a third of the way through it, and it’s very interesting. So far what I find most interesting is the part where the book puts out that everyone experiences all types of emotions and to all different degrees and that a high emotional intelligence will help us understand why we are experiencing this emotion and what todo with the emotion.

Why do we feel the way we feel? Something to be said for understanding the why behind our emotions, like why am I jealous of my siblings, why am I shameful when I use profanity? Figuring out why we feel the way we do will help us get answers to setting our selves up to feel better. When you understand what it is that makes you happy you can pursue this what, until then we are kind of like a bunch of people in a dark cave groping for a light in the dark. There was this great movie called “We bought a Zoo”. In the movie the father of two children who had just recently lost his wife, bought a zoo for his family to live on and care for. The son took his mothers passing hard and his father throughout the movie wanted him “to find his happy”. In maybe an ironic twist, I am not sure if it is ironic because the definition for the word irony always seem to elude and perplex me, but it seems that in order to “find ones happy”, we have to understand ones scared sad, and mad.
Well I hope you find your happy and have a great first day of summer.