Posts Tagged ‘life’

A huge contrast 

Posted: January 29, 2017 in Uncategorized
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This week in church the preacher was on week 2 of a study in the book Ecclesiastes.  I am not sure what religion you are reader but, this book can be a big bummer. The book starts with the author explaining how life is all vanity and basically a worthless endeavor. Obviously the preacher could not end the sermon last week on this note. It is poor practice to leave a congregation without hope from the sacred texts, so our preacher alluded to the end of the book of Ecclesiastes and mentioned how the book ends on a hopeful note. The book ends with the author mentions how service to God gives life purpose. The preacher mentioned how, every study of the book needs to have the end included and the end is a good one.  As soon as he made mention of the end being a good one I thought about the movie, The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel.

The movie was a wonderful film. If you haven’t seen the movie yet stop reading and go watch it.  The protagonist in the movie was in the middle of some great conflict, his hotel and dream was on the ropes and when reminded of his dire circumstance he let everyone know that in the end it will all work out. This perspective is so important to take on. Everyday we will face some conflict and when it is over everything will turn out fine.

Everything will be all right in the end. If it’s not all right, it is not yet the end”……. Patel, Hotel Manager, The Best Exotic Marigold

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Yesterday, I did not write a blog post. I wish that I could, honestly say that, I was involved in something really important and could not be torn away to write a post but that would be a lie. The truth is that, I simply forgot about writing a post. I really enjoy making a daily post on this blog. It is almost therapeutic for me. If you have read any of the posts you know that they are mostly the ramblings of a crazy person, so when I realized I forgot I began to wonder about forgetfulness and what causes it to happen. Why do we forget.

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Come on now you forget things too, appointments, meetings, medicine, kids at school we have all been there. Why does it happen. It seems that neuro-scientists also wonder about why humans forget or cannot recall things. The scientists have written studies about human brains and how memory works. One study was highlighted in a Scientific American article. The article is pretty interesting but I’ve forgotten most of it already, ha, I haven’t. The bottom line for me and this article was that, the human memory is amazing but we have trouble with the retrieval system. So it’s not my brain its me getting in the way of my brain. This kind of lines up with the benefits of entering meditative states and clearing ones mind and calming ones mind. Life can be overwhelming and when it gets this way we may have the tendency to forget things but we probably haven’t forgotten them we merely have to much “stuff” gong on and need to take some deep breaths clear our heads and then maybe we will remember what we believe we have forgotten.

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Breathing is important for our lives. If we don’t breath we cannot live that is why most meditations start with focusing on ones breathing.  Life is complicated, confusing and at times overwhelming but it is lived one breath at a time. If you began to feel overwhelmed confused complicated I would encourage you to, take some deep breaths and focus on the important things. If you find that the state of confusion does not go away you may need some medical attention and I encourage you to seek it. The stigma around medical attention for anxiety and depression is terrible and anyone who promotes it is awful. If you need help you should get it or if a family member or friend needs help you should encourage them while they seek it. Take time today and everyday to focus on what really matters and see how better you life can and will be.




The thing about tha bad parts is.. 

Posted: January 17, 2017 in Uncategorized
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I like, no love life and people. Life has been and continues to be for me, an adventure. Everyday I try to learn something new and fail at something. I would love to meet new people everyday but I sometimes fail at this ( live in a rather small town) but when I do meet new people it is quite the learning experience people are different as much as we try to categorize people and box them up we find that this is simply an exercise of futility. People and life itself never fail to amaze and humble me. All that being said sometimes life and people stink.

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Bad things happen to us in our lives and people we trust and love do bad things and this stinks. See though life is gestalt. Life is comprised of good things and bad things and although the bad things stink they happen and some would say that we cannot have good without bad. This cannot have good without bad is a theological doctrine named privatio boni (that is Latin for absence of good(I think)).  Whether or not I agree to this doctrine would take quite a few blog posts to answer so let’s not do that. Let me say that I do agree that, there is more good than evil and good will always overtime win out and finally life and people have their bad parts and they are unavoidable and they are worth it in the end.





Posted: January 12, 2017 in Uncategorized
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Weed is now legal in 8 states for recreational use. Cannabinoids, which are the chemicals in weed, can, when consumed on a regular basis, cause cognitive brain problems for people under the age of 25. Please note that alcohol consumption causes more brain problems than weed but weed legalization is new. Weed cigarettes and alcohol all legal now and all have consequences. As a parent many will worry that their children could get involved with weed, alcohol or cigarette use.

I have always felt that, education is a major tool that, should be used to alleviate the detrimental effect a of worry. We parents should educate ourselves on the yealth effects of weed and in turn pass the education on to our children. Armed with our education we can make a decision about our own weed consumption. As an adult we have an education and can use the education to weigh the consequences of our actions and finally act. I think this combination of education, judgement and action really is what being an adult is all about. Becoming an adult does not happen over night either, we grow into it. I think it starts as early as elementary school. There in elementary school, we learn that, our actions have consequences. In high school we are given more freedom coupled with greater consequence. College years are the same. Our whole lives we are learning about; actions and consequence, risk and reward and finally what do we understand? I think it is the purpose of all life. What is that???

“The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.”
Ralph Waldo EmersonRalph Waldo Emerson


So today I encourage us all to; be useful, be honorable, be compassionate, make a difference, just be an adult.




Last year, I traveled to universal studio theme parks in Orlando Florida and I had a blast. If you have not been to the theme parks, I would advise you to make the trip.

The theme parks are full of amusement park rides and experiences that are almost indescribable. If you enjoy the Universal studios franchises than you will love the theme parks. The parks and the rides do a wonderful job of immersing you in the franchises.

One Universal franchise and theme park section is, the Wizarding world of Harry Potter. Prior to going to the parks I was not a Harry Potter fan but when I walked the streets of Diagon alley  and Knockturn Alley (  imaginary wizard streets brought to life by the theme park) I felt transformed. After walking through and riding a mine car in Gringotts ( an imaginary bank also brought to life by the theme park) and a broom stick at Hoggwarts (Hoggwarts is the imaginary wizard school), I was compelled to read the books.


I am almost halfway through the second book in the set and I am in love with this franchise. See the story arc (so far) follows the adventures of 11 year old and now 12 year old Harry Potter who is a wizard. Everything for Harry so far is mysterious, magical, sometime scary  and bigger than life. That is exactly, the feeling I had as an adult in the theme park.   As I read through and admired the writing of JK Rowling I was really struck at how well she captured the child experience.

To a child the world is big, mysterious, a little scary and should be magical. I have great parents who took pains to ensure that, my sisters and I were safe and had a truly magical childhood. My parents flamed our curiosities and encouraged us to engage in an effort to learn about the world around us.  It can be easy and tempting to simply dismiss children and tell them things like; “bee seen and not heard”, but to a child the world is way different than it is for an adult and it may help us as parents to keep this in mind during our interactions with our children.

Do you remember what it was like to, believe in magic and endless possibilities?  Sometimes as grownups we can become cynical and almost adopt a hopeless state of existence but we should not do this. Do yourself a favor and go to Universal Studios, before you make that trip read the Harry Potter books and while you are in the middle of the books go outside on a clear night and do some star gazing.

See? People, the world and the universe are big, mysterious,  a little scary and magical. Lets all do our best to cultivate the imagination of ourselves and all the children in our life for 2017



Growing up I got bored and being a child I vocalized this boredom to my parents. My mother, always the teacher, would respond to; “I’m booored” (imagine that in a whining 11 year old voice) with “only boring people get bored”.  Of course I left still bored and now upset that my parent did not attempt to entertain me but I left and found constructive ways to entertain myself and now, many years later when faced with ennui I find ways to enrich my life and remember my mother.

I think that a major part of being bored stems from a life that lacks purpose. Living isn’t that hared to do, for men and women who are healthy, so it can be easy to fall prey to boredom. The United States and the world as a whole live in a time with huge income inequality however even people living in poverty live lives that are far less a struggle than a 19th century industrial worker in North America. The fact that are work and lives are less of a struggle, may be part of the reason that, we find ourselves searching for purpose.

“The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.”
Ralph Waldo Emerson

Many who find themselves without a purpose, describe the state of mind as lost. I recently moved to a new house. I enjoy running in the morning and the neighborhood I moved to was not on my running app. I set out in the morning for a jog and began to consider, the consequences and of finding myself lost in my own neighborhood. I would obviously be embarrassed and probably late for work but I would eventually find my way back home. I began to wonder about the state of being lost. See, to be lost you have to be unable to find your way. Your way is something that is almost abstract isn’t it? Your way belongs to you and is defined by you and your purpose is the same.

To find ones purpose, the journey has to start through looking within oneself.  There was an incredible article I read in Popular mechanics that, outlined the  incredible challenge involved in mapping out the human brain. The challenge to map the human brain is great in part, because of the beautiful and complex nature of the human brain. You are incredible and not boring at all. This year I wish you luck in finding purpose and never being bored.


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In contemporary western society most marriages involve an oath between two parties. Each mate in the ceremony promises to love honor and respect each other until one of them dies. An oath is a solemn promise that often invokes a divine witness. See oaths like marriage are wonderful and beautiful in theory but in practice, because we humans are; complicated, beautiful disasters things like oaths usually never work out the way they are intended. The chances are high that, within the lifetime of a marriage one mate will dishonor, disrespect and maybe even hate the other. The divorce rate in the United States,  as of 2014 is 3.2 per 1,000 people in the population, so that means there is a group who could not honor the oath of death to leave a marriage.

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The late supreme court justice Antonin Scalia, Judge Scalia was a textualist in statutory interpretation,  The  late judge opposed the idea of a Living Constitution, which is odd because, the constitution is a document full of amendments. See the constitution and marriage have something in common and that is people and people are complicated beautiful messes that change and evolve and if the constitution was not amended many laws and practices which are discriminatory and insidious would be legal within the United States.

Christian denominations are divided when it comes to Continuous revelations. Continuous revelations  is a theological belief or position that God continues to reveal divine principles or commandments to humanity. For the most part the Later day Saint denomination has embraced the position but not so much for the protestants, the Pentecostals and Quakers do not seem to take issue with this belief either. The thing is this religion, the constitution and religion all involve people (you know where I am going right) and people are beautiful complicated messes. We need to change and refine everything if we expect our institutions to survive.

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Me and you and everyone would do well to realize that, Socrates was right.

“I am the wisest man alive, for I know one thing, and that is that I know nothing.”  –Socrates

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It is upon the realization that we know nothing that we should base our lives. If you know nothing all you can do is learn if you know everything there is nothing for you to learn. Always learn and change, always seek Continuous revelations that will in turn lead to continuos improvement and finally provide you with a rich full and amazing life.