Posts Tagged ‘love’

This year in the United States the president campaigned and his campaign was full of hate and fear one statement that was very troubling for me was one in which he said that “The American Dream is dead”. The phrase American Dream was coined  in 1931 by the popular writer and historian James Turslow Adams and it refers to the upward mobility of people in the United States of America.

“that dream of a land in which life should be better and richer and fuller for everyone, with opportunity for each according to ability or achievement. It is a difficult dream for the European upper classes to interpret adequately, and too many of us ourselves have grown weary and mistrustful of it. It is not a dream of motor cars and high wages merely, but a dream of social order in which each man and each woman shall be able to attain to the fullest stature of which they are innately capable, and be recognized by others for what they are, regardless of the fortuitous circumstances of birth or position.” — James Turslow Adams

Just recently I listened to a podcast from Freakenomics radio that was all about the American dream.  For me the major takeaway from the podcast was, that the American Dream is not dead it is merely elusive and if society works together it can become revived again and available for all.

As I listened to the podcast I thought about dreams. What is a dream, obviously there is the concept of images and stories we are treated to while sleeping and then there is the aspirations, vision, hope an ideal. The Everly Brothers sang the song “All I have to Do is Dream”. In the song the brothers sang about a girl that they were infatuated with and in their dreams she was theirs the only problem was they were dreaming their life away. Martin Luther King Jr. was famous for his I have a dream speech. In his speech Martin Luther dreamed of a nation that was desegregated, were children of all skin colors played together and learned together. It maybe irony that a major way to promote and foster upward mobility in a United States city is through racial and economic desegregation. The more mixed a city is the more well off the children of the city will be. Atlanta GA is highly segregated and the lack of upward mobility in that city is at an all time high.

Image result for american dream etymology

What is your dream? Is it James Turslows Adams dream, Martin luther King Jrs., The Everly Brothers? What are you doing to accomplish your dream? See the strange thing about all three of these dreams is this; to accomplish these dreams you must think about someone other than yourself and act in the interests of someone other than yourself. A society where upward mobility is evident cannot have segregation and racism run rampant as it is today, a society in which children of all colors are playing and living in peace has no room for racism, and  the desires of a would be paramour must be achieved through going out of ones way to make life better for the love interest.

I guess my takeaway from my meandering thoughts this am or my daydreaming is that dreams can become a reality if they are fostered with love for others and dreams will die when we only care for and help ourselves.

Happy dreams everyone





Water and fluidity

Posted: January 19, 2017 in Uncategorized
Tags: , , , ,

I was writing a paper for a class on film and had to do some research into the Wachowskis. The duo created the Matrix franchise and directed all the movies in the Matrix franchise. I did not realize until I did my research that the Wachowsky brothers were now the Wachowsky sisters. Formerly Larry and Andy the two are now Lana and Lily. The duo are still the same people they have merely transitioned from the gender they were born with. Gender is fluid, identity to one gender or another is something that does not seem to be “hard coded”. Some are uncomfortable discussing this fluidity but they should not be. See as I get older I realize that almost all of life is fluid. Concepts that at once seemed “hardened” when studied and applied in practice to life become far more pliable and fluid. There was an author on a radio talk show discussing how language works and promoting his book. The book is, “Words on the Move: Why English Won’t – and Can’t – Sit Still (Like, Literally)” and the author is John McWorther. The book and the author explain how language is a changing and living thing and how when we correct someone about their use of the language we are often stopping progress. If everybody understands the word it is not the wrong word, this is how language works. Language is, as most systems are, fluid.

Image result for river

When I think of fluidity I imagine water and a stream. The water moves in the stream towards the ocean. It changes course and cuts new paths but it is always moving towards the ocean. Humanity moves towards sublime perfection, we cut new paths, make new languages, systems but we are always moving toward enlightenment. puddles and ponds that are not moving towards the ocean dry up and evaporate. They disappear and eventually become part of the movement back to the ocean. I like to think it is the same way with society. Those who hate and resist things they do not understand will evaporate and go away only to be swept up again in the fluid motion. I want to be a positive part of the fluid nature of society and not a stagnant part.





The thing about tha bad parts is.. 

Posted: January 17, 2017 in Uncategorized
Tags: , ,

I like, no love life and people. Life has been and continues to be for me, an adventure. Everyday I try to learn something new and fail at something. I would love to meet new people everyday but I sometimes fail at this ( live in a rather small town) but when I do meet new people it is quite the learning experience people are different as much as we try to categorize people and box them up we find that this is simply an exercise of futility. People and life itself never fail to amaze and humble me. All that being said sometimes life and people stink.

Image result for yinyang

Bad things happen to us in our lives and people we trust and love do bad things and this stinks. See though life is gestalt. Life is comprised of good things and bad things and although the bad things stink they happen and some would say that we cannot have good without bad. This cannot have good without bad is a theological doctrine named privatio boni (that is Latin for absence of good(I think)).  Whether or not I agree to this doctrine would take quite a few blog posts to answer so let’s not do that. Let me say that I do agree that, there is more good than evil and good will always overtime win out and finally life and people have their bad parts and they are unavoidable and they are worth it in the end.




I’m trying, I’m trying really hard, to understand the world I now live in, but understanding escapes me.

In the Philippines, the current president, Rodrigo Duterte has ordered the execution of thousands of people without trial including feeding one man to a crocodile and he is one of the countries most popular figures. In Syria, the Assad regime has committed mass genocide with Russian military support, causing an influx of refugees from the decimated cities and the international community has done almost nothing and now some of the international communities are closing their borders to refugees and this cold approach is gaining popularity. In the United States, the citizens elected a man to be president who has; referred to his own daughter as a “nice piece of a@#”, called a Mexican judge racist, was endorsed by the KKK, made fun of a mentally handicapped man on television, shoed distrust in almost every government organization (this list continues and does not really get any better). So all theses shameful acts are taking place and instead of shame and compassion the world and its people are bold brazen and it seems just getting started.

What I hear among the bold and brazen is a common thread and it is that, they are not content with the worlds current status quo, they want a revolution. Being a Beatles fan I immediately think of the song Revolution. See the thing about that is this, that song has more lyrics than revolution. Some lyrics I would like to point out follow

But when you talk about destruction
Don’t you know that you can count me out
Don’t you know it’s gonna be
All right, all right, all right

But if you want money for people with minds that hate
All I can tell is brother you have to wait
Don’t you know it’s gonna be
All right, all right, all right

See for 350 years the Jesuit priests taught dogma which was that, the ends justifies the means.  This dogma is incorrect and has been denounced by the catholic church and most Christian denominations but it seems that the public is turning back to this dogma. The utilitarian ethics is flawed in the Tyranny of the Majority. It seems we may not be facing a Tyranny of the Majority, people want change so badly that they do not care how or what change they receive. In an effort to avoid the tyranny of majority society and individuals  should always, strive to respect all life and show compassion whenever possible. I think this is a great place to bring up another Beatles song.

See this is how I was raised. To respect all life and show compassion but it seems this is not the new normal. Well I for one will side with the church and reject this ends justifies the means mentality that seems to be embraced all around the world, now and I hope you do as well




There is a stack of cards on my kitchen table currently on addressed. Now, I know Christmas was two days ago and I am late but, in my defense these are holiday cards, so being holiday cards I have a bout a week left before I get these to their intended recipients.

Holiday cards date back to over 100 years ago and every year many seem to prognostic about the future of the cards. If we can learn anything from precedent and history we have learned that, holiday cards are here to stay. Some are asking why?

Why send and receive holiday cards? Because, when you open the card and read the well wishes you feel good and reciprocity is a necessity.Image result for holiday cards



Now, you know about the table in my kitchen, let me tell you about the table in the lobby of the church I attend. The churches table is full of holiday cards from members to other members. One year I was feeling a little bit of the Xmas blues and my oldest son retrieved my stack of holiday cards and my spirits were lifted, ever since then holiday cards have had a special place in my heart.

A popular brand for holiday cards is Hallmark. Hallmarks founder Joyce C Hall got his start as a reseller of postcards. On Jan 11 1915 JC Halls warehouse and entire postcard inventory was destroyed in a fire. JC and his brother William received a loan and bought an engraving press.  This press was the beginning of the Hallmark corporation and really a North American Icon.

J. C. Hall at card displayJ.C. Hall took greeting cards out of drawers in retail stores, and into displays that let shoppers see all their choices, dramatically changing the way cards were merchandised.

I am grateful for; the tough years, the fire and the well wishes from awesome people in my holiday cards.

Happy holidays friends




This morning before leaving for work, I sat down and watched the movie Suicide Squad with my girlfriend. The movie received a measly 26% on Rotten Tomatoes but I loved the movie. I am a pretty big comic book fan though and I am sure that this love of comic books made me a little biased.

Will Smith, Margot Robbie and  Jared Leto do a wonderful job and even if you are not a huge comic book fan make the movie something worth watching. Comic book fans will love the cinematography though. Ever scene with the joker is a tableau that looks like it came right off the pages of a DC comic book.

Towards the end of the movie our main protagonist feels beaten and lost. Dead shot is the main protagonist. With movie magic timing the other protagonist pulls out a stack of letters from Dead Shots daughter. He tells Dead Shot that, his daughter has written him everyday since he was arrested.

What do we do everyday? I asked myself that question in the pivotal moment of the film. I came to the conclusion that, I do what matters most to me everyday. I mean, we may say that one thing matters more than all others but do we do this one thing everyday? If we don’t than our words are really not true.  Now, I am not saying that something doesn’t matter if we don’t do it everyday but I am saying that what we do everyday matters the most, gets the most attention and will be the most important thing in our life.

New Years is right around the corner. 5 days before we will began to make resolutions for 2017 and I would love to take this moment to encourage you, too engage in a systematic almost religious exercise that involves doing something daily about what matters the most to you.

I plan on doing this as well. At the end of 2017 we should get together and compare notes.




Finding that Place

Posted: December 23, 2016 in Uncategorized
Tags: , , , ,

My mom and grandma were big yard sale fans. I remember waking on Saturday morning watching cartoons then hitting the road with my mom and grandma. Armed with a classified section of the Plain Dealer my mom, grandma, me and my sisters would visit house after house inspecting, hoping and finding treasures. I fondly remember the yard sale adventures more than any of the treasures but two treasures that really stuck with me were, two knick knacks that my mom displayed on our console tv set for years. The knick knacks were; a black glass jaguar and a thin brass sculpture of a stick man playing the piano. You could wind the stick man sculpture and listen to the music and I did. I once commented on how the Stick man should fear the Jaguar but, my mom let me know that “music soothed the savage beasts” so the stick man would be safe on the TV next to the Jaguar.

I am no longer a child and I have taken much solace and found soothing qualities from all kinds of music. One composers music that has brought me great joy and peace has been Bach. The Music of Bach is appreciated and used my millions worldwide. Bach brings us peace in times of turmoil and trial.

Image result for music note

Johann Sebastian Bach, led a life that seemed to be full of tragedy. Bachs mother died when he was nine years old and he lost a brother and sister early on in his childhood. His father died nine months later and Bach was an orphan. Bach grew up in the custody of his brother and was an organist in the local church. Bachs adult life did not spare him from tragedy either, Bach lost his wife while he was traveling with his then boss the duke and he lost many children as well. Bach was imprisoned for quitting a job. Despite all this tragedy Bach composed music that is transcendental in nature. Part of me believes that Bach’s music was a necessity for Bach and outlet for pain and tragedy and the fact that he shared it with the world speaks volumes to his character.

What do you do, besides listen to Bach, to escape the tragedies in life? Everyone has something that find transcendental and moving. Is it something you can share with others? Are you sharing it?  Your experience could be exactly what someone needs right now.

Image result for quote about sharing experiences