Posts Tagged ‘motherhood’

On my way in to work this morning there was an interview with a man who gives employees advice. Today’s advice was on how to call in sick. He mentioned that normally we feel ill roll over call our employer tell him we are sick and will not make it in then roll back over. He said we should stop doing this. What we should do is call co-workers, make arrangements for the days meetings and work prior to calling in sick. That way when we do call in sick we can let the boss know that we will not be there but it is ok because we still took care of all the work we needed to get done.
This got me to thinking about life and how often times we get more caught up in the how instead of the what. Sometimes we need to get things done. I think about family and the changing face of it. I am divorced from my children’s mother and I know that is important for a father and mother to love and support their children. Being divorced and not in the home adds an extra layer to that. This extra layer makes it harder and less orthodox than a family in which both parents live together but it can still be done. The family is changing at a very rapid rate there are families with one parent at home and another away, some families only one parent is there at all, but what matters is that the children are loved and supported. That is important.
I think a good exercise for all of us when we start to feel ourselves getting caught up in the how can I is to breath and ask ourselves what do I need to get done. My dad used to tell me the secret to any maze is to work backwards. Dad is a pretty smart guy
Happy Friday
Peace
John3c

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Johnathan my middle child was ten years and at home with his sister, brothers and mom. I was a little older than ten and at the Atlanta International Airport. I was on a layover which I usually don’t mind in Atlanta. The airport is nice, it is one of the largest in the nation I think maybe world, but the layout isn’t confusing and there is an underground train which will quickly take you between terminals and each terminal has, nice shops and pretty good places to eat. One of these nice shops is where I usually find trinkets to bring home to the kids. It was one of these shops where I found, a book for Johnathan. Yes you guessed it, the book was “Diary of a Wimpy kid, Rodrick Rules“.

Johnathan has an older brother (by about a year) named Kyle who loves to read. When Kyle first learned to read he became this unstoppable force. Deciphering and uncovering secrets about the english language every day. Kyle read billboards during car rides, cereal boxes and newspapers in the morning every book on the bookshelves at his moms, my and his grand parents house. It was fun to watch Kyle read as much as he could. Johnathan was not exactly the same way. “Reading is boring!” That was Johnathans mantra. Johnathan is a brilliant boy (yes I am biased just like any parent would be) and didn’t have a problem reading he has always read at a higher level than his grade but he didn’t show the same interest in it as his older brother did. While in the gift shop looking at all the overpriced gear I imagined Johnathan thanking me for the book and immediately retreating to a quiet place to engage his mind. Read is very important, empowering and freeing. If you have a moment take a chance to follow this link; 

http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2012/06/how-good-books-can-change-you/259169/ 

It is a story about the amazing thing that happens when we read. 

Well that was my vision for what would happen, however as it often does, reality was far from my vision. Johnathan thanked me for the book and placed it on his bedroom nightstand the book stayed there untouched for at least a week. Kyle found the book and devoured it. Johnathan wanting to emulate his older brother followed suite. He read the book and loved it. “The Diary of a Wimpy Kid” is actually a series of great books and Johnathan, despite his hate for reading, read all of them!

Johnathan is now 12 years old and he still hates reading however he has read a good deal of books. He loves the Young adult books that have seemed to flood the market. I am so thankful for the flood. Johnathan has realized that by reading he can experience something that is wonderful and amazing. Reading is powerful through reading we can become educated, employ empathy and really become a better person and society. So today I am grateful for “Diary of a Wimpy Kid” and Kyle. If you know anyone who hasn’t learned to read no matter what age please help them http://www.literacyconnections.com/AdultLiteracy.php

peace

john3c

 

This is a good one. Driving home Sunday I was listening to the radio when a song came on,  the singer was singing about the end of a date and regret he had for not kissing the girl. The crooner went on and on in a great voice, that my girlfriend might describe as sexy,  about how he would’ve and should have kissed this girl. You know what hang on because this really is a great song, It is called “Kissed You” and is performed by a group called Glorianna. This is definitely worth an i tunes download and more than one listen.

and here it is:

I dropped you off
Just a little after midnight
Sat in my car
Till you turned off your porch light
I should have kissed you
I should have pushed you up against the wall
I should have kissed you
Just like I wasn’t scared at all

I turned off the car
Ran through the yard
Back to your front door
Before I could knock
You turned the lock
And met me on the front porch

And I kissed you
Goodnight
And now that I’ve kissed you
It’s a good night good night baby goodnight

You couldn’t see me
Watching through the window
Wondering what went wrong
Praying that you wouldn’t go
You should have kissed me
You should have pushed me up against the wall
You should have kissed me
I was right on the edge and ready to fall

So I turned off the car
Ran through the yard
Back to your front door
Before I could knock
You turned the lock
And met me on the front porch

And I kissed you
Goodnight
And now that I’ve kissed you
It’s a good night good night baby goodnight

I turned off the car
ran through the yard
back to your front door
Half scared to death can’t catch my breath
Aren’t these the moments we live for

And I kissed you
Goodnight
And now that I’ve kissed you
It’s a good night good night baby goodnight
It’s a good night good night baby goodnight
It’s a good night good night baby goodnight
It’s a good night good night baby goodnight

 

See? You liked the words didn’t you? Well these words got me to thinking about what is worse a missed opportunity or a oppurunity in which you missed? I have to say that when you do something and fail at it you leave all questions and almost all regret with that action and moment, but when you do not make the moment happen there is regret for the lack of an outcome coupled with questions of what the outcome would’ve been.

People say “try to live a life without regret”, I say live life without question because of different things the regret will be there, I mean hey , life is not perfect, but if you try there is no question that what happened was meant to be.”

peace

john3c

Moms’ are great right?  I mean we owe them our lives. Without our moms’ none of us would be here. We describe nature as a mother and the earth as a mother. One of the most hurtful things a child can say to another child on the playground is an insult about a mother.  

 It seems that even the greatest president who has ever lived, Honest Abe, understood how important a mother is. “I remember my mother’s prayers and they have always followed me.  They have clung to me all my life.”  ~Abraham Lincoln

Ok so it is confession time. I moved out of the house as soon as I turned 18, but I have always made it a point to call my mother, because I love her and because my dad reminds me at least once or twice a month.   I give her a call and update her. Before I had kids the calls were about me after kids well you can guess who the calls are about. One thing that remains constant about my phone calls with my mother is the love and the strength I can draw from that.  Now where is the confess at? While it has been some time since my last phone call. I know, I know I feel horrible and I should. I actually plan on calling her Friday. Because I plan on calling I got to thinking about what I will say on Friday, and I have realized that over the years, I have less need to edit or omit stories from my conversations with her than I did before.

A good litmus test for our lives is that. If you were to have an open and candid conversation with your mother about all your actions this past month would you e ashamed?    I know that is tough right? The thing is though if we are doing something that we don’t want our mother to know about should we really be doing that?

Just something to think about

 

peace

john3c