Posts Tagged ‘self awareness’

First allow me to apologize to any psychiatrists reading todays post. Using the word shrink instead of your correct title was done purely to save space in the post title. I in no way want to demean an important and needed profession like yours.  Second let me finish the joke… How many psychiatrists does it take to change a lightbulb?

Only one but the lightbulb really has to want to change. This is an old and funny joke which demonstrates the power of self-control. Often life can seem to be on a chaotic fast paced uncontrollable trip. We seem t o search for a way to rein it in and come up empty. This emptiness can often stem from looking in the wrong places. One thing that has become increasingly blatant, the older I get is that one person cannot control another person. The only person we can possibly control (and most of the time this can feel like an impossible task) is ourself. How we react to certain situations and treat other people are really all we can influence and learn to control.  

Trying to get a handle of our out of control lives by attempting to control others is an exercise in foolishness. If our lives our out of control it stands to reason that we need to find the reigns within ourselves.

Very often a change of self is needed more than a change of scene.
~ Arthur Christopher Benson~

peace john3c


I am not sure if you followed the trial of Dr. Conrad Murray or not, but you don’t need to to enjoy this post. Some context here: Dr. Conrad Murray was the personal Dr. for Michael Jackson,  he was found guilty of involuntary manslaughter of his superstar patient.  For more details you can check out the link.

During the doctors trial all kinds of people were brought to the stand among the throng of witnesses were, experts in medicine, hospital protocol and many character witnesses. The quote above was taken from one of the character witnesses was Sadie  Anding. Sadies testimony was very interesting and fodder for the title of todays post.

Sadie one of the doctors 3 girlfriends testified to things that went on the day Michael Jackson died and during here testimony she stated that she had spent part of the day “working on her instrument”, this upon clarification was found out to be herself, because she is a performer I think an actress. So working on her instrument was working out.

Ms. Andings statement got me to thinking and got me a little nostalgic.  I remembered for some reason riding my bike as a kid. I would ride my bike everywhere me and the Brian from across the street. We would raise up to the private school and church then we would practice and do tricks from the loading docks steps any piece of concrete we could find. Our bikes were the closet thing we had to an instrument.

Next door to my house was an older neighbour and his wife. Paul and Daisy Brown, they were from Texas but had lived in Cleveland Ohio for forever. Paul was retired and he would repair me and Brians instruments for us. Mr. Brown showed me and Brian how larger gears at the pedal and smaller gears near the wheels made bikes faster.  Much later in life I joined the army and bought a used car that never really worked right. I tinkered with it and so did two mechanics before I sold that instrument. I learned a little about engines and how they work, I guess you could say my instrument was my car then. Now I don’t do much tinkering with cars or bikes, but I am sitting at my desk here at work looking over a guide-book given to me by the human resource department of the company. The book is called “Emotional Intelligence 2.0”, it details how emotions can affect job performance. Our own emotions as well as the ones by members of our team. The book is full of exercises to help understand and use our emotions and when you think about it the book gives us exercise to fine tune our “instrument” which is ourselves (like my self aware pop psych. analogy?).

So today I will try my best to work on the instrument I have had as a child and will have until death. Me

What will you do?

peace john3c