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Crazy title right? I was reading an article (I know it’s a shocker me reading an article) and the article mentioned all these ways to help stay mentally sharp . One way was to be happy it seems happiness and mental acumen seem to go hand in hand. They help each other smart people tend to be more happy and the happier the better your brain is for learning more.

So the article I read said to plan a trip but not take it. as a tip for making yourself happy.A study showed that the highest rate of happiness happened during the planning stage.  Getting your tickets, passports itinerary crafted despite the stress this was when your brain was happiest. The anticipation and excitement melded together to cause a wonderful perfect storm.  You are thinking about it now aren’t you. Now I am not sure about you,but I also enjoyed the trip I know I did. I loved it. I had free time with special people no stress a lot of fun so I say plan and if you can take the trip, but I also know that we live in the real world. The real world does not always allow the dreamers to fulfill their plans but it seems this is ok. That despite not seeing our plans to fruition we can still experience happiness and joy! This is great news! This is freeing news and this is news that when examined makes sense.

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I have meet so many people who just according to society and culture should not be happy and they were! These people were happy despite their circumstances and they are dreamers, planners and many are living those dreams out. Well maybe modified dreams or plans but they are living and doing it all happy like.

I can accept failure, everyone fails at something. But I can’t accept not trying.
Michael Jordan

It can become easy to be an victim of our circumstances. To avoid this we should employ  self motivation. One of the first steps in self motivation is seeing and setting a  goal, then planning to reach this goal. Finally execution of the plan. When you fail cheer up! You get the chance to plan again! Remember it is in the planning that we will experience the most fun! So welcome failure plan for success and enjoy life.

Failures are finger posts on the road to achievement.
C. S. Lewis



I grew up watching the “Justice League” cartoon on Saturday mornings, reading the once a month “Amazing Spider Man” comic book and watching every “Superman” and “Bat man” movie. I was always looking for the “real – life” heroe. As I got older I began to realize that there really weren’t any heroes just a bunch of “average – joes” trying to get by. Then one day I went to work with my dad and watched him show up on service call after service call assess the situation go to his work fan get his tools he needed an before we left the person had heat or air conditioning.
See my dad repairs heating and air conditioning units and he does this for personal and commercial customers and he does this everyday. Doing this job he was able to somehow support my mom and four kids. It was because of dads work that people are able to go about their business day-to-day. When I think about it people like my dad, the “average – joes” are the real heroes. People who build and maintain the roads and bridges, people who keep everyone’s cars running, people who get up every morning and despite aches and pains put on their work clothes and go to work. If it wasn’t for the men and women at the power plant, we would all be in the dark when we flip the switch and if it wasn’t for the solider, sailor, airmen or marine there would be no freedom. I believe the late David Foster Wallace penned it best…
“True heroism is minutes, hours, weeks, year upon year of the quiet, precise, judicious exercise of probity and care—with no one there to see or cheer. This is the world.”
David Foster Wallace, The Pale King
This means two things first that true heroes and heroism are not unique, but second and more important it is good to remember that everyone can and should and really needs to be a true heroe. when you go to work today and tomorrow remember you are a heroe just for showing up. Go You!!
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Yesterday I took a day off from work and writing in this blog. It was my middle childs 13 birthday and Columbus day. Johnathan, that’s my new teenagers name, had a good birthday  with cake and cookies and presents and I always enjoy seeing him and his brothers and sister grow up so it was a good day off.

Johnathans brothers and sisters told him that he was lucky with his birthday falling on a holiday that all the kids get off from school. They had to go to school on their birthdays. It was because of the holiday talk that the kids got to talking about Christopher Columbus and his accidental discovery of North America. I heard them talk and interjected here and there but mostly I thought about how Columbus was half right.


For anyone who doesn’t know, what made Columbus famous and deserving of an American holiday was his trip from Spain to North America in 1492. The English at the time controlled many of the trade routes in the ever shrinking world and common knowledge was that the earth was flat (crazy huh). Well Columbus in opposition with common knowledge and the church at the time proposed that the earth was round and that if he sailed west he would eventually sail east and make a new trade route to the Indies for Spain and Italy and basically every other country than England. Well Columbus was half right. Because of the lack of charted territory Columbus ran into the continent known now as north america. This prevented him from reaching India. However many history books state that till his dying days Columbus held to the notion that he had reached India. It wasn’t until 1533 that the Magellan expedition successfully circumnavigated the globe and the word success is loosely used because the expedition which left with 237 men returned with only 18.  However the Magellan expeditions returned proved Columbus was more than half right he was completely right. The earth is round and you can reach the east by heading west.  It took 40 years hundreds of men and ships but because of the actions of men like Christopher Columbus and Ferdinand Magellan, the world has become a smaller and more connected place.  So I am suggesting a Magellan day to accompany the Columbus day celebration. What do you think?



After the short trip downstairs to the warehouse I am greeted ny thousands of hanging, garments and cardboard boxes. I always said that the warehouse for distributing to North America looks like a dry cleaners pumped up on steroids. I don’t have time to marvel at the warehouse though I have to get a shipment to the shipping manager before a truck leaves.

Now on my way back to my office I have some time to marvel and I do. The warehouse has a staff of 300 but I only see about 12 people during my marveling ( I think most are hidden in the labyrinth of shelves and boxes and hanging garments, some are also members of the second shift). The workers perform all different types of tasks and each task has different tools, ranging from complicated fork lifts to simple plastic tables with wheels on them. I notice one of the simple plastic rolling tables (called carts in the warehouse) because it has been decorated by the employee who has laid claim to it.



The cart is decked out in candy wrappers and there is a quote that I love. It reads “Sieve the day Put no Trust in Tomorrow”. I am not sure where (other than this cart that the quote comes from). Sometimes it is hard to embrace today and easier to set ourselves on “cruise” control and pass through the day and know that tomorrow will be better but the thing is there may not be a tomorrow and why would they day be better than today. Well tomorrow I will ____ (fill in the blank) since tomorrow may never come perhaps we should do that today?

Just a thought



I am sitting here as I type listening to “Defying Gravity” from the “Wicked” musical. Yes that is right “Defying Gravity”. I have to confess the song is a great one. Just the lyrics alone make me want to stand up and do all the things that fear has kept me from doing. The lyrics are really great but the score is amazing if you haven’t you should download and listen to this song.  As I listen and enjoy the crescendo of the music I wonder am I compelled by the lyrics, the score and rhythm or a combination of all of the above.

Lyrics right here_————————————————————-
Something has changed within me Something is not the same I’m through with playing by the rules Of someone else’s game Too late for second-guessing Too late to go back to sleep It’s time to trust my instincts Close my eyes: and leap!
It’s time to try Defying gravity I think I’ll try Defying gravity And you can’t pull me down!

I’m through accepting limits ”cause someone says they’re so Some things I cannot change But till I try, I’ll never know! Too long I’ve been afraid of Losing love I guess I’ve lost Well, if that’s love It comes at much too high a cost! I’d sooner buy Defying gravity Kiss me goodbye I’m defying gravity And you can’t pull me down:
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I really have nothing at the moment that I would like to accomplish and am not because of fear but I really feel like getting up and doing something, it is at this moment that I realize I am a victim of “misattribution of value” ( This  psychological term is an interesting one and I am sure that many of us have experienced this at one moment or another. 

We mistake what is causing an arousal in use I am convinced by the song that I have some unfinished work that fear or others are stopping from doing but I really do not. The song is just a well written powerful song. When used properly this can whip calm innate people in gentile settings into a frenzy and when unrecognized many otherwise rational people can do some irrational things.  It is fine to enjoy a riveting song or soul-stirring movie but we before we go quitting our 9 to 5 and joining the peace core perhaps we should make sure we are not a victim to the misattribution of arousal.



He was late picking her up. He had a great and true excuse on the car there was the tell-tale replacement tire his hands, although washed, still had some  grease on them and his clothes were grungy and wrinkled. The tire blew on the interstate while on his way to pick her up from her night classes. It didn’t take that long to change the tire but it took long enough to make him at least 15 minutes late. He probably should have called as soon as the tire blew but he was busy trying to steer the car to the shoulder of the busy interstate. Now he was standing in the local college parking lot hearing some choice words about his lack of respect, the need for them to become a two car family how she felt so bad being left there like some lost luggage receiving stares from her peers. He looked for a chance to interject and explain himself and actions but choose to employ the “say nothing” strategy. She finished here outrageous proclamations perplexed by him not defending himself and looked at his dirty hands discombaguatd appearance and then glanced at the spare tire and she started crying. Without saying a word he gave her a hug and all was forgiven and forgotten.


It can be very tempting when involved in a conversation like the one going on in the previous paragraph to jump in feet first defending ourselves vehemently and do our best to make the other person realize the error or her or his ways. However what will this accomplish? All we end up with when doing this is two upset people. “Silence is golden” this is a maxim that would behoove many of us to adhere to. As an exercise today let’s all try to do this. First no interrupting all day let the other person finish their conversation and if what you have to say will not help the other we will all just be silent.



We have all heard it before. “I would have done that, but I don’t have the time.” Some of us have even used this as an excuse before(insert gasp here).  It is an easy to use and impossible to fix excuse isn’t it? I mean can you make the day longer? I can’t, no one can. The excuse is easy to use because of the ambiguity of time too. Define time can you really and for that matter what time is it now? look at your pc, microwave watch and cell phone. Do any of the times displayed on those devices match? See time is elusive and hard to define and describe and therefore really should never be used in any excuse.

When we tell someone we didn’t do something because we didn’t have time we relay to this person to things first and foremost is our inadequate ability when it comes to the task they need us to complete and second is an apathetic indifference towards their needs. So basically when asked why we didn’t do something and we are tempted to blame the elusive, ambiguous, abstract called time we should really say something like this. “I didn’t get done what you needed me to do because, I cannot do that, and I am not concerned enough about what you need, to learn how to do that.” 

Pretty harsh huh? I mean no way I would ever say that to someone. But guess what when you reach into the excuse bucket and pull out that card, you are saying that. I know nothing like blatant honesty to start off a Thursday morning but I will admit I have used this excuse card before as well. I implore you today to join me and tear up this card. Next time you feel that a schedule is preventing you from doing something do not call into contention time. We cannot change or really adequately define time so this excuse does not work. We will never get less work the labor will always be there.

When you take this card out of the “deck” you will be one step closer to finding the key for you to be more helpful and productive and you will not be upsetting people who depend on you. So you will be like superman or super woman instead of the guy or gal with a million reasons not to. Wouldn’t you rather be super?