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I throw an aluminum can into a trash bin and I respond to my co workers reprimand about recycling with the quip “everything is recycled eventually.”  I usually try to find the recycling bin at the office and place refuse which belongs there in it but on the current day the bin was missing and I couldn’t find it. However when you think about it recycling does take place eventually.


I guess the question is when would you like this item to be reused or recycled. A lot of things happen with or without or actions. I am not sure about you but I like to believe we are to certain degree “masters of our fate” I am not so sure sometimes though when I see things happen despite precautions I have taken it is almost as though the universe has decided something would happen. So what do I do about things that will happen eventually? Do I fight and flee, embrace and nurture the changes or maybe a little bit of both?

What do you do about things that happen eventually? How much do you fight it? How much do you embrace it? I guess the answer depends on two questions which really shape your entire being. What is happening to you and who are you?




I was speaking with a friend about good days bad days and perfect days and I let her know that, you can only get two good days in a row. I should have said you can only get two perfect days in a row. The problem with perfection is that, first of all perfection is a very subjective term. Your idea of a perfect day will probably not match my idea and it shouldn’t. To each his or her own I say. The second problem with perfection is, people are no were near perfection and never will be. The fact that we cannot define the perfect day properly should point out to us that we are foolish to assume that we will ever obtain it.  I know it is Wednesday, hump day and my words are not making the middle of the work week look any better, I apologize for that too.

We will never be perfect, but we can be happy! Yes that is right despite your and my imperfections and really all around crappy days we can still be happy. How you may ask can I be happy in spite of this mountain of a mess that is my life? That is the crux of it isn’t it? I don’t know how, no one knows how except you.


Yeah the secret is somewhere in there. You have the key to your happiness. Some find this in religion others their professions, some family and most it is a hybrid answer involving all three of these facets of life. Life is the common factor life should make you happy and if we are not happy perhaps we are not doing it right? I am not trying to get judgemental (I used the word we). But maybe if we can learn to acknowledge facets that make us both un happy and happy we can accentuate the parts that make us happy. Like the late great and immortal words of Johnny Mercer say:

“Gather ’round me, everybody
Gather ’round me while I’m preachin’
Feel a sermon comin’ on me
The topic will be sin and that’s what I’m ag’in’
If you wanna hear my story
The settle back and just sit tight
While I start reviewin’
The attitude of doin’ right

You’ve got to accentuate the positive
Eliminate the negative
And latch on to the affirmative
Don’t mess with Mister In-Between

You’ve got to spread joy up to the maximum
Bring gloom down to the minimum
Have faith or pandemonium’s
Liable to walk upon the scene

To illustrate my last remark
Jonah in the whale, Noah in the ark
What did they do just when everything looked so dark?

(Man, they said “We’d better accentuate the positive”)
(“Eliminate the negative”)
(“And latch on to the affirmative”)
Don’t mess with Mister In-Between (No!)
Don’t mess with Mister In-Between

(Ya got to spread joy up to the maximum)
(Bring gloom down to the minimum)
(Have faith or pandemonium’s)
(Liable to walk upon the scene)

You got to ac (yes, yes) -cent-tchu-ate the positive
Eliminate (yes, yes) the negative
And latch (yes, yes) on to the affirmative
Don’t mess with Mister In-Between
No, don’t mess with Mister In-Between”



“I’m not the wizard you were expecting, but I may be the wizard you need.” — That is the quote from the Movie I watched this weekend with my girlfriend  and seven kids. Yeah seven. The movie was, The great and powerful OZ. The movie casted James Franco as OZ, a carnival magician and con man who in a Kansas tornado was swept away to the land of OZ and recruited by the good witch to help free the land of OZ from the tyranny of the wicked witches.


Oz didn’t really have any magic, but used what he had which was ingenuity and support of the people of OZ to do battle against the wicked witches. I will not let you know how it ends. No spoiler here but, do know the movie was excellent.

Oz makes the quote above before he purposes his plan for the movies epic battle. I love that all the kids heard this quote because I think it is important that they learn early on in life that life is not perfect and we have to often do great things with what seems not so great.



Ok so if you said Warren Beatty you get the gold star. In the 1967 movie Bonnie and Clyde Warren makes this insightful quote “Ain’t life Grand”. If you have just read the first line and are very confused please see my post from Friday.

The first statement, if you haven’t read my post from Friday can be a little confusing, it could be compared to opening a 200 page book up to page eighty and starting to read. You would be confused and lost. Much of the plot develops quickly in novels, of course being the sharp tack and bright bulb that you are, you would quickly understand what is going on, developed your own back story and have finished the book by lunch time. I am of course assuming you are reading this book on one of your days off. Even though you would figure out the book starting at the beginning of our imaginary book would make it easier to understand and maybe a little more of an enjoyable read.

When I was in the Army one of my drill sergeants would always make mention of being on the same sheet of music. Have you ever seen sheet music? I have it can look quite complicated. I have not yet learned to read music. I like singing in church the older hymn but the only instrument I have learned to play so far has been the radio. I have however been exposed to sheet music. My sister played the violin, my daughter the clarinet and I have seen the paino player at churchs sheet music. Some sheet music will have words and two different sets of notes on them. I can totally imagine the confusion if you were to turn the page to early, while you were part of some orchestra.


Sometimes at home and at work we can feel out of “it”. Usually after we get back from a vacation or have just recovered from being sick. There are routines in social structures that develop a mature over time and if we have not been there for some time we will not be accustomed to or even know some of the nuances of these routine. It is important to, relax, take a deep breath and remember, what Christopher Robin told Winnie the Pooh when something different happened to him.

“Promise me you’ll always remember: You’re braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think. Christopher Robin to Pooh”. 



As a child growing up in the eighties and nineties I became obsessed with things and accomplishments. In little league I wanted to win trophies, in karate I wanted to earn belts, in school I wanted A on my report cards. There is nothing wrong with success and benchmarks for success, however I was told by my grandmother to slow down and enjoy life. She was right. It is important to keep in mind the immortal words of the great Ralph Waldo Emerson.. “Life is a journey, not a destination.” 


At work there is a bulletin board. Being the fun guy I am I like to put up some famous quotes and have people guess each week who the author of the quote is. This weeks quote is not Ralphs but one from another famous author, one of my most favorite authors. This weeks quote is “Don’t cry because it is over, smile because it happened”  Dr. Seuss.   The quote is from a different author but dealt with almost the same thing. We should stop and realize that life is a very precious gift all of it even the parts we don’t like and if we focus to much on the end we could miss the best part and really the only part, the now.

So my thanks for today go out to the good Dr. and Mr. Emerson. Thanks guys. Thanks for reminding us through your words that life is really grand. PS who said “ain’t life grand” ?

(I will tell you on Monday)



They are good tools. That was what I was told about credit cards. “When used properly a credit card is a very good tool.” I was twenty years old and I thought how could you use a credit car improperly, swipe and repeat did not seem to difficult to me. Later I got my credit cards bills and things started to become more clear. 

Every human being has a optimism bias.  Scientist who study the human brain know where and how the optimism bias works in the human brain. One scientist has even developed a way, using magnetic fields, to remove the optimism bias.  The removal of the optimism bias makes a human pragmatic and realistic, but shouldn’t we have some optimism? I mean don’t you think hope is the quintessential trait that makes us human? 


I can’t help but compare the optimism bias to credit cards both are really excellent tools. There is nothing wrong with using a credit card to build credit and take care of an unexpected expense. There is however a problem using credit cards to pay for expected bills.  There is nothing wrong with a positive attitude, however there is also nothing wrong with expecting and planning for success but also planning for failure.

I heard a comedian say that everyone needs a plan B. His proof was a question he poised to his audience. “How many of you are doing what you said you would do in grade school?” The comedians joke was funny but he made a good point. Our plans need to have optimism but at the same time we should prepare for setbacks. It is important in life to never give up on your dreams but to also realize that your dreams are going to change. 

I think if we understand life we will understand how to use the tool called the optimism bias. The best quote I ever heard for understanding life and I quoted it before comes from John Lennon

“When I was 5 years old, my mother always told me that happiness was the key to life. When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down ‘happy’. They told me I didn’t understand the assignment, and I told them they didn’t understand life.” 

See how great is that quote?



Last weekend my oldest son wanted to visit the bookstore in the mall, so we did. While in the book store I was encouraged to see all the new titles and authors available for readers of all ages. I love to read. I was just recently turned onto reading  books on my I pad using the kindle app. I love it! I can download all sorts of books and read them whenever and wherever I want and they do not stack up in the bedroom, living room, den and kitchen!

While in the book store I walked by a section titled self-help and I noticed quite a few books dealing with the title of todays post. I am a guy so I am more skeptical about the power of optimism. I have read the secret and watched the movie.  The book is good and so was the movie. The secret is a book written by Rhonda Byrne. In the book Rhonda purposes that, because of the law of attraction individuals who think positively will attract more positive things. 


The problem with the law of attraction is that this is not a scientific law it is a thought principle.  The thought principle was created or discovered by a 9th grade educated welder born in Scotland,  named Sydney Banks. The three principles of Mr. Banks have been and are still being applied in hospitals and hospital systems, correctional institutions, social services, juvenile justice programming, community housing, drug and alcohol prevention and treatment programs, schools, and multi-national corporations. Despite the lack of empirical evidence this idea of principles forming and shaping man works!

Self-help and the power of positive thinking can be easily dismissed and usually is, but I ask you this. When you are faced with something dark and depressing what would you rather have inside you guiding you a pessimistic person or a optomistic one (of course both would be pragmatic)?

So with that in mind I hope everyone has a wonderful day and if you want to chances are you will.